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Everyone has their own ways of expressing love and their own needs to feel it. For example, my boyfriend needs attentive actions/actions of service/devotion to make him feel loved. So, cooking him food or taking care of him in whatever way makes him feel cared for and loved. He also needs quality time and words of affirmation (although he isn't aware of this last one and would deny it to the death, lol)Meanwhile, I'm more of the devotion, touch, and mainly words of affirmation. He's not really the touchy/feely kind of guy a lot of the time. So that was hard for me in the beginning. The important thing is for you and your boyfriend to communicate and understand what each of you need. You may not be the best at expressing yourself verbally, but I'm sure you show it in other ways, right? Do you ever compliment him on things you admire/respect him for? Do you ever do nice little things for him just because you thought it would make him happy? Give him gifts? Try to make time for him despite your schedules? Just talk to him and let him know this is concerning you. I understand communication isn't your forte, but you should definitely work on strengthening that aspect of yourself. Communication is the most vital key you can hold to the world around you. You just have to find your own way of doing it genuinely :) Good luck sweetie!