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Would you break up with someone if they had trouble with expressing their emotions towards you?

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So, I'm quite possible the worst girlfriend in the world. Every time my boyfriend says he likes me or something remotely romantic I'm just like, "Oh cool. Me too." in a monotone voice. I'm pretty unemotional when it comes to relationships, not because I don't like the person but because I've just always struggled with expressing how I feel and end up coming off as cold or uninterested. So basically 50% of the time I'm with my boyfriend I'm worried he's going to break up with me for being an unemotional freak, even though he knows I really do like him. Pretty much had to vent that.
Everyone has their own ways of expressing love and their own needs to feel it. For example, my boyfriend needs attentive actions/actions of service/devotion to make him feel loved. So, cooking him food or taking care of him in whatever way makes him feel cared for and loved. He also needs quality time and words of affirmation (although he isn't aware of this last one and would deny it to the death, lol)Meanwhile, I'm more of the devotion, touch, and mainly words of affirmation. He's not really the touchy/feely kind of guy a lot of the time. So that was hard for me in the beginning. The important thing is for you and your boyfriend to communicate and understand what each of you need. You may not be the best at expressing yourself verbally, but I'm sure you show it in other ways, right? Do you ever compliment him on things you admire/respect him for? Do you ever do nice little things for him just because you thought it would make him happy? Give him gifts? Try to make time for him despite your schedules? Just talk to him and let him know this is concerning you. I understand communication isn't your forte, but you should definitely work on strengthening that aspect of yourself. Communication is the most vital key you can hold to the world around you. You just have to find your own way of doing it genuinely :) Good luck sweetie!
Actions speak louder than words.
silkandlace · 46-50, M
I only say because i feel there are Communication Breakdowns in my marriage at times, and i just want you to know that communication is VERY important; i don't want to delve into all the details, but you have to let him know "what's up"
silkandlace · 46-50, M
If i may, i think you just really need to sort out how you feel. Does he really excite you, do you feel the need to be around him? If so express it, let him know....
silkandlace · 46-50, M
There's just things that need tended to! :-)
silkandlace · 46-50, M
And you're NOT the worst GF ever!
SoFine · 46-50, F
1. Your self-worth is low.
2. Find ways to build up your worth, the only one that can do this is you.
3. Then write him a poem or a letter to express how you feel.
NaturallyPeculiar · 26-30, F
@silkandlace
It's not that I don't know how I feel, it's just that due to certain circumstances I have trouble explaining how I feel.
silkandlace · 46-50, M
Well that's ok too, but, does he know that? If it's for real, he needs to know, or how else will he be able to understand?
silkandlace · 46-50, M
It also depends on, from my first reply, are you indifferent, or is it your tone?
SW-User
That's a good question. Probably not. It's not easy to be sure until I'm in that situation though.

 
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