I can be happy with both - though I don't adapt too well to believing that I have one then he whips out the rug from under me to reveal that he is the other.
There is a 90's era documentary of a Portland area drag queen that was very popular for hosting bridal parties the night before weddings. Part of the doc shows a reluctant bride confessing while crying that her groom is a crossdresser and is having cold feet. Darcelle then proceeds to tell the young woman that if she accepts her man how he is, allows her man to dress en femme, and even participates, she will have a man who will never stray and be obediantly loyal to her, doing everything she asks him to do. cc: @WillaKissing