It would be upsetting they took their life, but I wouldn’t feel guilty for it or put blame on myself for it. We’re not obligated to be around people we don’t enjoy being around. The circumstances are irrelevant in daily life especially if you’re unaware of them.
The only people I can think of who I hate being around are very negative, judgemental, gossiping, bigoted types. There has to be some responsibility for what you put out into the world. If nobody wants to be around you, it's time for some self exploration. Some people just will not help themselves, I refuse to beat myself up about that.
everybody makes choices in life and I'd stop and wish they had sought help rather than take the action they did. at the same time I'd be relieved I wasn't hanging out with them now
I had a strange guilt a few months ago. There was this guy at my work who was always asking me for rides. I didn’t want to give rides all the time but I gave him quite a few and was thinking he’d move on to someone else. He died after a couple months. I didn’t know he was sick. I felt so guilty for not wanting to drive him when I found out he had died.
I'd be deeply upset for their families loss for a start. Then guilt would set in, I'd probably ponder a lot as to why I avoided them. There would be a lot of weird emotions going through my mind. 😶
I probably wouldn't feel much of anything, maybe a bit sad for another suicide or curious about what drove them to the decision.. but we obviously had no connection so I would be emotionless basically.
I'd feel bad for them but it's not my fault I wouldn't have saved them anyway. It's not easy to talk someone out of suicide specially if you don't know them so well.
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@PiecingBabyFaceTogether id be sad for their family and that felt the need to take that decision
what would them having committed suicide have to do with my desire to hang out with them? people make their own choices, if i didn’t want to hang out with them there is a reason. im not responsible for their death.
