Would u be friends with someone u know is a racist ?
What if the person was always nice to you. What if they actually treated you with respect. What if they fed you. And gave you water. Woukd you still want to be friends with them too.
This 80 year old guy treated me nice yesterday, White guy. You could tell he was kinda racist. Why, because he had that like real stoic look you know. And his words were very cold and straight to the point. Me, and a few other guys did some work on his business. And everything was cool. At the end of the day, he like shoved me a plate of food. Guess what was on it. A ham and cheese sandwhich, with twp sticks of celery, and a carrot. I hate both, but he made me eat it anyway. 🤣 He was like here, young man, eat that. I was like uh, ok. 🤣 This was so funny. If you saw how he did it, you would be laughing, too. I however did eat the ham and cheese. What do you think ? Would you, or could you be friends or associates with someone who was a racist. 🤔
I once had an uncle who lived down South that was racist. He was the nicest, most friendliest guy you'd ever meet. Would help you with anything if you ever needed. Was the type that would give you the shirt off his back. But he was the typical Southern Redneck if you were the wrong color.
I would be civalized with the person but certainly not a friend. Racisim has no place in this world, no matter the race thats the target. I value my time and people like that just arent worth my time.
I met up with an old classmate from school days some years ago and we got on well enough to meet up from time-to-time in a not-too-close a friendship. It was only after a few meetings (we live a couple of hours travel from each other, so it's not frequent) that I realised that he harboured racist feelings. My way of dealing with has been two-fold: 1) silence after he has used a phrase or made an overtly racist comment so nothing to indicate I agree. 2) Direct challenge up to and including telling him "I can't stand ReformUK or what they stand for, so don't even discuss them with me."
We still have some good days out together, but he watches his tongue out of respect for me, if not others. I dislike breaking off relationships altogether.
@FreddieUK I use this approach with a friend of mine who is a Freemason. We were having dinner one night when he told me. The conversation fell silent. I changed the subject and we moved on. Later, on another occasion, we walked past the Masonic Hall where I live.’ No comments please,’ I stated. He looked quickly, then we moved on, continued the walk and enjoyed the sea air. We have been friends since we were eighteen and still are.
I've found out that a few people I know and love literally subscribe to some inherently racist ideologies, to the point where I'm not even sure that they would deny that they're racist.
I think some people are mean and hateful because they've never experienced love or positive feedback. Kindness can open dialog, and can soften and change hearts. But, that being said, I couldn't be friends with a person who was purposefully nasty, spiteful to others. It is one thing to offer kindness, it is quite another to continue to accept inexcusable behavior.
How racist we talking? If they're like the stereotypical old guy who says mildly racist things, but it still nice to people of other races, I probably would.
That's a tricky one. Especially when they come to you whispering racist shit thinking you're like them. If I was going to stop talking to everyone I know thats racist if probably stop talking to a third of all the people I know. This is the South
Definitely even if it was my race they didn't like. Racism isn't the boogy man it's made out to be. Racism just interferes with globalism so they try to demonize it.
