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Are you bothered or not by a partner who is constantly glued to his or her cell phone?

At the dinner table. During church service. Before bedtime.
Degbeme70-79, M
I`m happy when she is, that means I don`t have to talk to her. 馃槵
Fairydust46-50, F
Harmonium192351-55, M
I'm bothered immensely by it. It's insulting.
@Harmonium1923 you smash someone's cell phone just once, they'll know that you're not bluffing.
ArishMell61-69, M
I don't have a partner but one or two of my friends are a bit that way.

I live by the rule that my portable 'phone is OFF most of the time unless I am expecting an arranged call, which is very rare. All my friends and relations likely to call me know I am not usually readily available by text or voice 'phone; land-line or portable (nor come to that, by e-post). So they leave a message!

It is switched OFF when I am driving (illegal to use it while actually driving); obviously in any situation like a church service, lecture or entertainment event; but also in any informal social gathering.

It is only ever switched ON overnight for its alarm-clock function if needed while away from home - and that is very rare! For an alarm clock at home, I use a bedside clock / radio / alarm.

I take it with me on long journeys to use in the event of breakdown, accident or undue traffic delay; but have often been on entire holidays with the instrument turned off throughout.

I have never understood why so many people are so desperate to have their 'phones switched on permanently (except when re-charging them) that they lose even more etiquette with the thing:

- Are you genuinely expecting a genuinely important call constrained by time of day? Be honest - does that really happen very often; except in certain, necessary professional or medical situations? Switch it on but if available, set to silent (vibrate) mode. (Unfortunately, silent mode is not available on mine!)

- Do you need make a genuinely important call constrained by time; or necessary to the occasion? Is that common outside of your work or medical needs? Switch it on to do so, switch it off again afterwards.

[i]Easy, isn't it![/i]


Incidentally there are purveyors to the ignorant and gullible, of foil-lined portable-'phone wallets supposedly shielding users from "radiation" the sellers hope incomprehensible and frightening. The likely effect, if any at all, is to block incoming calls; so perhaps socially advantageous to everyone around the user!

The snake-oil sellers exploit the instruments' need to emit tracking pulses so the telephony system can route calls to and from them. Apparently this happens even when the 'phone is nominally 'off'. I do not know if that is correct, but even if it is, the battery drain rate on my 'phone suggests these harmless v.h.f radio pulses are of miniscule duration and power, at low repetition-rate. They are also transmitted as omni-directionally as possible, with the side-effect that only some of the signal reaches the user.

If you find a portable telephone that alarming, don't have one!

Besides, as with all electronic equipment anyway, our portable radio-telephones have to comply with many increasingly complicated and stringent, internationally-agreed, safety and environmental standards.
Scribbles31-35, F
It doesn't bother me. We both know when to put the phone away/down and pay attention to each other first.
You take them any way you can get them,and miss them when they鈥檙e gone.
ShadowfireTheSarcastic46-50, M
Yeah. Makes it harder for me to show them memes I find interesting on my phone.
swirlie31-35, F
No, not at all. When I first meet a guy I tell him right up front how much I dislike cellphones coming between me and the guy sitting across the dinner table from me. The deal is, when we go out for dinner, all cellphones either get turned off or get muted. Whoever pulls their phone out FIRST during dinner to see if anyone has called in that period of time, is the one who has to pick up the tab for dinner that night. Otherwise, we will split the tab 50/50.

But if either one of us actually calls back someone who called during dinner to see what they wanted while were still having dinner, the other person sitting across the table from the phone offender would never make herself available at a future date to go out for dinner with the one who couldn't leave his fucking phone in his pocket. [/c]
Mamapolo201670-79, F
Hasn't ever happened to me. Plenty of other annoyances, but not that one.
Piper61-69, F
If I had a partner, that would definitely bother me.
SweetMae61-69, F
Yes, it is annoying.
It amuses me when i take my wife out for a meal and we see many couples at tables tapping away at their phones not even talking to each other .
@Highskirt Maybe they're texting each other.
justanothername51-55, M
@Sharon Quite possible.
@Sharon 馃ぃ馃ぃ馃ぃ
Before bedtime isn't that bad unless I'm trying to spend some quality time with them. But, yes, it would bother me if they were constantly glued to their device; especially if it made them oblivious to what's going on.
Carissimi61-69, F
I wouldn鈥檛 tolerate it. You are either with me, or you are not. If not, I鈥檒l see you when you want to spend time with me, and not your phone. I don鈥檛 have a partner, but this is what I would do.
nah... i'm always looking at a screen of some sort myself. as long we can get each other's attention when it counts. it's like parallel play
Tinkles26-30, F
Doesn't bother me but if I want the attention I just take his phone and hide it on my person or start texting him 馃檭
I have no qualms over destroying other people's cell phones.

People need to disconnect
I only do it when she鈥檚 busy with school work and stuff. If she鈥檚 paying attention, so am I.
rrraksamam31-35, M
If I'm right there in front of her, what would she be doing on her cell phone all the time?

I certainly would be if it happened, it doesn't thankfully.
meggie36-40, F
I would be but he hardly touches his phone
They need immediate replacement.
NewBeginnings779036-40, F
I鈥檇 definitely be bothered by it.
It used to shit me when that was all my ex did. But when I touch mine and barely at all she would ask 鈥渨ho is she鈥 lol 馃槀
Miram31-35, F
I would be but never experienced it.

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