I've never been on a real date. Cause the nervousness and shyness prevented me from asking.

So I've spent my whole life with women who picked me up at a bar or the work place and took me home for years, weeks or half a night. I really don't think I'm living the way I'm supposed to. I'm not complaining, just reflecting on how it could have gone if I was confident

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hartfire · 61-69

Interesting.

Maybe try putting yourself in a traditional or shy woman's place. She waits to be chosen. She doesn't go to bars because that's where men go who only want to use women; such men have no interest in reciprocal relationship or giving pleasure in return.
Such a woman settles for the first man who comes along because she doesn't believe she will ever have much choice.

Does this mean she's never been on a proper date?

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

@hartfire that has definitely crossed my mind, the parallels and the restraint of individual choice