I'm Actually Quite Shy

I'm really starting to hate my shyness more than ever. It has become so bad that I do not have any friends at my new college and I feel overwhelmed and anxious if I dare think of approaching anyone else. I always avoid eye contact while walking to class and I just really hate my life right now. This is pathetic. Being 20 and afraid to communicate with others. To add insult to injury, I'M A COMMUNICATIONS MAJOR!

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dakinegirl

Same here. And same goes w/ when I see a guy I like. But my shyness around people is gradually fading. First of all, I ask God to help me to overcome my shyness and this 'scared' feeling. And I keep telling myself, "I can't be like this at work again." It makes me feel worse. But I realized when I said a simple 'hi' to someone, I felt better. Here's the thing: I think the reason I became like this was because when I was little, people hated me because I was extremely talkative. I became 'scared' and shy around people after realizing, becoming afraid of what they'll think of me.

thepixiestixs · 26-30, F

Prayer is the best advice. And you're so right! I thank you so much for sharing your experience and reasoning.

dakinegirl

No problem.

DeniedWings

I'm in a similar situation. I'm studying International Relations and can't talk in public. But I'm improving. My advice is, get good peopl to hang with, that you feel comfortably with and that support you. That will make you improve little by little.

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thepixiestixs · 26-30, F

Wow, you're very fortunate. That was a lovely movie too. That's so awesome to have friends as such. I guess I really miss my other college and friends. Starting over hurts, a lot.

DeniedWings

Yes, but calm seas do not make good sailors. College will improve you a lot if you don't surrender, and that's the hard part, I've had very tough times this year. If you need any help, you can talk to me :)

thepixiestixs · 26-30, F

Wow, now that has to be the best quote I've heard since moving over here. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I truly appreciate it more than words can express. Keep in touch. :)

janeastin

I had this problem too. I took a bunch of drama classes. I'm still a little shy, but have no hesitation whatsoever starting conversations or getting up in front of groups. It was torture at first (visible shaking, choking on words, hot 'n sweaty) but if you do something over and over again, it becomes easier and less stressful. psychiatrists actually use this kind of "therapy" to treat things phobias or OCD.

janeastin

things *like phobias

Spencer024

Sorry to hear that honey! Im also experiencing the same so I know the feeling. :(

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