Are you ready to put aside your Victim and really look within?

@CrazyMusicLover exactly. And often they are oblivious to their actions in it

@summersong yes. People don't care to really know the truth. They will just join in on the wild savage hunt and sometimes its because they feel like saviours and other times it's because they are sadistic.

@summersong @SW-User Smart ladies.

People tend to easily forget, there is always another version of circumstances/situations. The other side of it.

@Rokasu depression seems to be a current pandemic.
Well. I could say a lot but maybe some other time. I know that a lot of things I say might not be received...and I can only make such posts once in a while. 😂 It takes too much energy.

@SW-User I probably agree with you on whatever you had to say.

I was a little shocked you made this post honestly. From a PR perspective and an expectation perspective. Most of the folks here are hypocrites, myself included. You kicked the hive to be stung by lies.

@Rokasu this is how I make enemies. 🙃

@bookerdana Aye! Succinctly put. 😂

@SW-User Theres a meme for everything!

@Fairydust Brilliant.

@SW-User it is, I’ve learnt so much ✨

@Unlearn Family is definitely tricky. But with anyone else, I don't indulge or enable it. I disengage and walk away. I often get called self centered because I did not indulge their tantrum. 😂

@SW-User If it's not family, I don't even give it a second thought. I get called self centred too and I honestly am self centred. My wellbeing is more important to me...

@Unlearn Me too. ❤️

@ABCDEF7 agree

@SW-User That would be the awareness in yourself that would eventually hold you back from pointing fingers at someone and looking inwards reflecting on why that criticism of someone else is coming up.

@Freeranger It is very much 'know thyself' that is behind this post. Awareness is important to even know those voices exist and then it takes some form of regulation in ourselves to pay attention to what it is saying.

@SW-User I actually experience periods of success with that......I do.😏

@Whodunnit Yes. I have been there too and now whenever I begin to do it, I realise what I am doing because I'm now aware of that pattern.

@SW-User there are some who just enjoy the drama it creates that puts them in the center of the storm so to speak. As long as other people keep enabling that behaviour they won't stop because there is no reason to stop. And somehow people like these always find enablers. Some new unsuspecting kindheart until they are also at the end of that blame stick.

@SW-User Indeed.

@antonioioio so true

@SW-User People actually lie so much on online sites ...
There is no limits or any moral they feel in their soul! Lol

@AngelKrish I know. It's why I prefer to keep disengaged from 'relations'.

@SW-User but i also found true friends online...from EP.
Good people do exist so i am here!

@fakable it is a long hard road. But worth it.

@Coppercoil well said.

@SW-User I think you can put blame on yourself for allowing others to take advantage or cause harm to you for sure and you can learn from that and make sure you dont ever put people in a position to ever do that to you again. But first you need to see the fault of others to get to that point

@Torsten I agree with that. Seeing something in others that we find a fault is always a reflection of something in ourselves.

@SW-User exactly

@plungesponge yeah. Hard choices.

@antonioioio I am learning and once you see it you cannot unsee it.

@SW-User Since responding I happened to have a long chat over dinner with my brother and sister. Our conclusions about our parents are remarkably similar. We all suffered from our mother's extreme selfishness, constant need for attention and wanting to fulfil herself through her children whom she couldn't see as having rights of their own; her giving birth to us seemed to her to make us part of her. I learned many things I wouldn't repeat here. My brother has concluded that one of her problems was intellectual snobbery, i.e. she and her children were deemed superior to almost all others :- it wouldn't have mattered who any of us fell in love with as they couldn't have been worthy, and she backed up her appalling views by a blatantly hypocritical use of religion; there were always plenty of Catholic priests who subscribed to her views. I think nobody can get completely emancipated from such a extreme and perverted view but it's important to keep trying and looking for symptoms of the disease in myself. At least I've never struck my son and never would! I don't in any way want to embarrass you but it is a help finding someone with at least an open mind and possibly a degree of empathy, like yourself.

@alan20 You don't embarrass me at all and I am sure sharing that must have been difficult for you. Thank you for sharing that. I have understood a lot about you with this.

@SW-User Thank you. ❤️

@sspec That is wise.

@SW-User Agree. All criticising other people does is hide our own flaws.

@Magenta great minds. Lol

@nevergiveup Some people have taken it up as a hobby on here, yes.

@SW-User they are called trolls and i have met to many on here over the years

@SW-User I still fail sometimes but now I catch myself faster when I slide. Trying is good.

@btchstfu So proud of you. 😢

@SW-User so glad that u are!

@Justenjoyit It's got to be productive and healthy criticism to lift someone, not so it appeases the ego in the moment. 😂

@SW-User Obviously constructive criticism lol

@ButterRobot Truth is always an ouchie. 😂

@SW-User No. I'm bringing awareness to their Victim addiction.

@SW-User It’s very immature behaviour.

@iamonfire696 it is for sure. But also an obstacle for one's own development.

@SW-User I believe that as well. There’s no growth if you can’t apologize, self reflect and move on.

@Unlearn Okay. Thank you. I'm definitely going to look into this more because I want it. 🙃🙏

@SW-User You're doing well. I have seen you progress over the years. That's why I like talking to you...just don't try to force anything. It will happen naturally. It's important to be patient.

@Unlearn Thank you. This means a lot to me.

@SW-User LOL, I'd be curious to see how she reacts.😂

@BigGuy2 this is applicable to all humans.