Are you ready to put aside your Victim and really look within?

Criticising others is simply a way to avoid looking at the flaws in oneself.
If you're busy criticising others, you can't take accountability or responsibility for yourself.
You're going to be a perpetual victim, faulting everyone else.

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Unlearn · 41-45, M

I think everyone past 20 years of age should do it...I mean it's easier to tolerate dramatic teens but it's quite another thing to see a fully grown adult do it. I keep my distance from such people, but it becomes difficult when it's someone close, whose well-being I care about.

SW-User

@Unlearn Yes, it's like an adult child who never grew out of their tantrums and their loud cries about what a victim they are from their perspective because someone didn't meet their demand of the minute. It's manipulative, and self sabotage too.

Unlearn · 41-45, M

@SW-User Few continue to do it because it works for them. I try to dry out the supply of attention and validation from my end, so that it doesn't make sense for them to continue like that. But, one cannot do that for long when that person is family...

SW-User

@Unlearn Family is definitely tricky. But with anyone else, I don't indulge or enable it. I disengage and walk away. I often get called self centered because I did not indulge their tantrum. 😂

Unlearn · 41-45, M

@SW-User If it's not family, I don't even give it a second thought. I get called self centred too and I honestly am self centred. My wellbeing is more important to me...

SW-User

@Unlearn Me too. ❤️