What do people really know about you?

I believe it should flow naturally. Your instincts should guide you. There is no timeline per se, because how we connect with people varies.
It's also not as though you open up in one go. It happens gradually.

The '60's axiom was that if it felt good, do it.

While I don't disagree with most of your contention, I do not feel any or....little of it is relevant unless people are near enough to be able to enjoy that physical contact and interaction. I could tell you that I am a psychologist and that you could tell me anything as well, but without knowing me personally.....without being able to witness me in public or privately....how I interact.....how I conduct myself, the language I use, how our eyes meet and greet...and having that sense of the individual that only human conduct can convey is in totality. a gigantic crap shoot.

What you see here on this website is this eclectic mix of the honest, a dash of bonafide altruism, hosts of storytellers, flim flam artistry, the needy and the independent....none of which you can establish in any true sense, a clue as to who they really are.

But as with all things, just my .02 🧐

Nothing,I've never trusted anyone

With those I let in, I’m an open book. Some I become close to easily. Others never make it to the heart of me, and that’s ok. Not everyone needs to be in my inner circle.

I truly agree with you....

I dont even share my daily activities.... sometimes only about part of who I am to people that matter to me... 🤗😘🌹🌹

I would love to get close to someone and share my deepest self. It would take time. Most don’t have the patience.

I've always been hard to get to know. I'm private and mostly hold my own counsel. Plus I tend to hold most at arms length. The very few I've become close to on a deeper level, it was natural and just flowed into that from a connection.

Giving someone a run down on daily happenings or my life, isn't what makes me close to someone.

Only what I allow them to know… 🙂

Play hockey
Sarcastic and somewhat guarded
Very underrated on here

I'm a bit introverted, can be a bit awkward .. so its never been easy making friends.

There have been a handful here and EP over the years that knew/know me pretty well, for this situation. In my in-person life, friends moving for work and us doing that a couple times have separated us from some of our "better friends" by up to ~ 1500 miles or more. Hard to keep connections without real, in-person interactions in either environment.

Its harder making friends at my age now than before. Guess we tend toward being more guarded as we get older .. and more wise to the tricksy ways of some people.

Always err on the side of caution. I’ve learned the hard way one can never unshare something they wish they hadn’t

My ptsd goes smoother if I share about my misfortune with a few of my friends. 🤷‍♀️

Nothing. No one knows the real me at all. I don't trust anyone that much.

I have always struggled with that bit. See if I let you into that side of me then at some point in the future somewhere, sometime one or both of us is going to get hurt. That's the low that's the quid pro quo of the highs opening up like that will give.

Seriously there are very very few I've let into my inner sanctum like that.

Truly said
Should not let someone know our weakness

I thought I knew someone very well on EP little things didn’t seem right and before I knew it that person was far from what I believed. I guess that you or at least I can just tell when somethings not right

Good question. I think i make friends easily. I open up fast, almost as if i have known these new friends earlier. But there is a line. I don't allow access beyond that. Unless they do not know me in real life. Sounds so contradictory. Haha.
Chew on that. 😀

I wish I knew more on when it’s the right time and or how much to disclose. Not many know me, and I’ve often been told that I’m either too closed off or being an over sharer.

No fear here. I even used to be guilty of oversharing. An open book I would call myself. Then my therapist told me that was a sign of loneliness.

Well said. You can’t have real intimacy without sharing, at least, some of your deeper self. Some can no longer do that because of too many betrayals.

I'm a hard person to get to know I think. I keep things to myself and I have walls. 🧱
but kudos to the ones who break 'em down. 😁

I am an open book but sadly its sometimes proved not to be a good thing but you live and learn.

I will totally try to live through this kind of filter thanks for sharing totally made an impact on me.

I think a few of my coworkers know me better then anyone else in the world, & we never associate outside of work.

Hardly anyone knows anything and only I know everything.

I share precious little about myself. Not out of concern for what others may think but for my own reasons.

Well, let me tell you a little about myself.

Back in the 20th century, I used to be a....

Just following the trail of crumbs

People know what I want them to, but my nature's difficult to hide.

When ya know, ya know ...

Apparently I’m an old lady 😥

Nothing I don’t wish them to know 😉

Not many people know me at all

All very true 👍

I am an oversharer for sure. It’s a trauma thing.

I'm honest in tell you I have multi likes for you

Most times it's a no no as u find out later they use it against u. Mostly from a trusted friend who gets angry at u that do it