What do people really know about you?

One cannot build a real, trusting relationship (love or friendship) with anyone without allowing each other a deeper understanding of their private selves.

Sharing daily activities is not really sharing. It is just like reading the news. It’s nice to know, sure. But it doesn’t really tell you much about the other person.

Real sharing is being open to letting people know what makes you tick, what annoys you, what makes you cry, what you’re really afraid of, etc.

Real sharing is being open without the fear of being judged. But are we always brave enough to do that?

How much are we really willing to share?

How quickly do we want to start disclosing our thoughts and feelings?

How do we know when we should…or that we can?

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Magenta · F

I've always been hard to get to know. I'm private and mostly hold my own counsel. Plus I tend to hold most at arms length. The very few I've become close to on a deeper level, it was natural and just flowed into that from a connection.

Giving someone a run down on daily happenings or my life, isn't what makes me close to someone.

CookieCrumbs · F

@Magenta
I agree with your last statement.

People sometimes mistake closeness by how much life activity details they willingly shared.

Does it really matter what you eat or what color of clothes you’re wearing today? Does it really matter what time you do your laundry?

We mistake trust and closeness with info sharing, especially online.

Is it really trust and closeness? Would we share the same details if we weren’t anonymous?

The moment we blur the line between trust and intimacy is the moment we may mistake attachment for love.

Magenta · F

@CookieCrumbs Such wise words and I concur. 😊