Irritating

Why is is so hard to find women on here to talk to? I know this ain’t a dating site. It’s just frustrating when their bio says something along the lines of “love getting messages” or “let’s chat” then don’t message back. I know most are fake or their guard is up because people online ain’t always who they say. I have been using this site for a while and it continues to let me down day in and day out.

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OlderSometimesWiser · F

I know most are fake or their guard is up because people online ain’t always who they say.

You’ve pretty much answered your own question and most women just aren’t here to PM unless they’ve established a relationship with someone who’s made the time and effort to get to know them on the public boards. And even then, many prefer not to PM at all.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@OlderSometimesWiser I understand that to a point but what’s the point of the message capability if no one like using it. Make it. Blog board.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Ballplayer28 People who’ve made the time and effort to get to know each other use it and likely have worthwhile conversations. That’s not likely for people who just want to pop into someone’s inbox without laying the groundwork for friendship.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@OlderSometimesWiser how do you do that without over commenting on someone post or being “clingy” or “creepy”

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Ballplayer28 By not looking for someone to fulfill your kink of being dominated and disciplined. That would be a good start.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@OlderSometimesWiser I guess 😔

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@OlderSometimesWiser I’m really a great guy it’s not just about that but I know what I need/want. I don’t think that’s a bad thing. Ultimately I just would like the company and showing who I really am

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Ballplayer28 Then work on letting people get to know you over time out in public. Sending needy PMs is highly unlikely to get you what you want.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@OlderSometimesWiser I’ll try but not sure how

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Ballplayer28 You’re talking to me right now, opening up and having a regular conversation. So reply to people’s posts and have regular conversations just like you would out in the real world. Show interest in others, have a little humor, don’t take yourself so seriously and be patient because relationships don’t grow overnight or from popping up out of the blue in people’s inboxes.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@OlderSometimesWiser haha I guess you’re right!!!