Irritating

Why is is so hard to find women on here to talk to? I know this ain’t a dating site. It’s just frustrating when their bio says something along the lines of “love getting messages” or “let’s chat” then don’t message back. I know most are fake or their guard is up because people online ain’t always who they say. I have been using this site for a while and it continues to let me down day in and day out.

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DancingStarGoddess ·

What exactly are you saying to them? ( To be clear this isn't an invitation)

I hope it isn't just "hi" or hey there which isn't indicative of the personality therein...

Not to mention it probably is sitting there in a sea of other bland "hi and hey there how are you?" Messages from others which is something to consider. Hopefully you're opening up with something that tells them why you're jumping in their DMs and what your intentions are. 🤷🏾‍♀

Also, they have the right to choose whom they chat with... There's lots of people on here, they can't chat with everyone.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@DancingStarGoddess I have a full introduction explaining details about me. Including age, height, hobbies. Then exactly what I’m looking for and my intention on the site. I took time to type it all out and out deep thought into it. I know you said it’s not an invitation, but maybe I can send it to you and you give me your feed back? Once they happened I’ll never message you again if you say so.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@Ballplayer28 No I mean, when you message them directly. I have a huge thing in my profile as well as a message introduction and I can assure you about 98% of people still ignore them either by choice or bc they feel that profiles tell you almost nothing. Lol. This is entirely why I asked.

mine is incredibly specific and yet it doesn't stop anyone from sending something like "hi, I like your boobs. Have you ever let anyone pee in your butthole?" And other such romantic gems.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@DancingStarGoddess I’m talking about in my message. It’s different from my “about me” I’m sure you do get swamped with messages but it sucks the genuine guys fall victim to that and are over looked

DancingStarGoddess ·

@Ballplayer28 oh I know, that's exactly what I was talking about. Both profiles as well as message introduction. As I said mine is incredibly specific. See?

This is there and stops no one from sending them. There are at least 20 "hi" messages there and you have to open each to read through the intro. When just my about me would have saved them the trouble.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@Ballplayer28 no, most of the messages I get are genuinely awful lol. There's a few who are cool but most know I don't like being confined to DM

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@DancingStarGoddess I understand that. Could I please send you my message? And you give me your thoughts then we can jump right back to comments

DancingStarGoddess ·

@Ballplayer28 Gotta say no thanks atm, I'm actually getting ready to log out. I'm sitting on my bed in a towel like a jackass when I should be getting ready for an appointment. I've got to go. I hope you have better luck though. Some of these people are pretty cool. Most prefer to get to know people via Q&A first though.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@DancingStarGoddess I understand thank you for your time and advice.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@Ballplayer28 You're very welcome! Thank you kindly for being polite. Much appreciated.