Expectations : why isdatibg so hard for you?

I am divorced once and for the past 24 years remarried and happy. We both are in past relationships that were not working. We met online way back then; it was texting only on an AOL page that was " recently divorced." So it was over 5 months until any of us saw each other. All the initial feelings were purely with verbal attractions.
We ended up meeting at a mutual site with her ex-mother-in-law along for her safely.
Some of the things discussed were family issues, Faith, children, and expectations towards place to live etc. " at the time I was in Louisville, KY and she was in Iowa.
Our years have certainly had a few pains and issues, the main thing is learning how to actually communicate feelings and not get upset if you are not in agreement. Actually, listening to each other rather than just expecting "your" side to be the most important.
I learned that Love is not as much of a feeling as it is a commitment to always think of the other partner first and actually care about making marriage a true partnership.
The Bible says that women are to be submissive to their husbands, the next line is often ignored, "especially by men", and it says "as Jesus is to the church." So, submission is to be two-fold, with compassion and love for each other.
To summarize, attraction was totally nonphysical, we each found out or attraction was real because it was totally based on what we believed instead of what was saw physically.

I’m trying to figure out myself,it’s surprising that sometimes its takes the silliest reason to hold on or break up .

Goodness dm I'm most of what you're looking for andwers

Who wants wholesome ?
I enjoy Kinky and open minded