Everyone avoids the dark and negative, but nobody is immune. It's as honest and real as positivity.

Why do we act like it has no place? And isolate those who are experiencing it? It's the other side of the same coin. We are complete beings.

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Matt85 · 36-40, M

for me, horror movies are like a basement window

MarbleMarvel

@Matt85 I think I like dark, creepy stuff for that reason too. It at least acknowledges everything isn't always love and light.

Matt85 · 36-40, M

@MarbleMarvel it's kinda tricky to explain. While it aknowledges the dark, the light kinda creeps in, in unexpected places. I think one of the most relatable concepts is the way it brings the truth out sometimes. We can all relate when something rings true. There is this sorta epiphany level thinking that comes from despair
and if you can be creative with that, like making a film, it's just awesome.

TheOneYourMotherWarnedYouOf · 31-35, F

Sometimes being in the dark and negative space is the only way to get anything done

MarbleMarvel

@TheOneYourMotherWarnedYouOf absolutely

Magenta · F

Spot on! It's something I always believe and know. Toxic positivity makes me nauseous. People invalidate you when they don't allow for the 'dark' in us and want to pretend all is light or 'I live in the light.' Pfft. More like delusion.

MarbleMarvel

@Magenta 💯 it is invalidating. I definitely feel pushed out of the way to make room for the positivity parade. It must get tiring eventually, pushing everything undesirable away. Or maybe it doesn't.

Tarnished · 26-30, M

I'd argue it's the opposite. People have a tendency to focus on negative things moreso than positive things.

MarbleMarvel

@Tarnished Perhaps it's from my standpoint then. I keep trying to be realistic about the negativity of my situation so that I can heal, but when I talk about it, most of what I hear is to just not feel how I feel.

Gangstress · 41-45, F

Actually they don't always.
I do know people who engage within the dark of others . My partner often does. And thats fine
What we cant do is think thats it. Because we nave depth. And its just not the dark. You have to also embrace the light..should you choose not to then be prepared for the dark to consume you wholly

MarbleMarvel

@Gangstress Agreed. I believe it takes both. Avoiding one or the other when both are valid is where it gets messy.

Shybutwilling2bfriends · 61-69

I visit it but dont stay

icedsky · 51-55, M

It's a balance. Can't have one without the other. Although I do believe it ebbs and flows both directions at times.

MarbleMarvel

@icedsky I wholeheartedly agree. I wish as a society/people we understood that not everything needs to be fixed or shooed away. Just go with the flow.

pripyatamusementpark

I totally agree
I cannot stand toxic positity

MarbleMarvel

@pripyatamusementpark I think it's more covert than many realize. How people subtly ignore negativity and those experiencing it. They make it look like they pitied it and that's enough. Like, hopefully you find the light again... Lol or, it'll get better.

I think of the horrors my mom lived in her dementia brain. Nothing comforted her. It doesn't always get better. People threw her away. Her friends and family. They threw her out and they threw me out too.

I hate trying to not believe. I hate that I'll never have my family again. It's not going to get better. It's not about seeing the light. It's about being ditched because things weren't all pretty and easy.

I want to move on, but how can I when my feelings are endlessly invalidated and that is considered help?

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