Do we need people pleasing abilities? At least a little?

I quit people pleasing all together. I used to enjoy making others happy until it cost me too much. People used me up. Since I stopped, nobody wants anything to do with me anymore.

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Frostcloud · F

chronic people pleaser here

i think kindness is incredibly important but people pleasing will hurt you time and time again

empathy without boundaries is self harm

ScreamingFox

@Frostcloud Agreed. There must be some balance, I don't know what it is. I'm still kind, but my boundaries are strong and I'm honest about it. For that, people have no use for me.

GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M

@Frostcloud Yeah. It leads to empathy burnout.

GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M

@ScreamingFox More like you don't have more use for certain people anymore! Know your worth or others will brainwash you into believing you are worthless in order to take from you and enslave your soul.