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LadyBronte · 56-60, F
Anyone can form a relationship. The question is, can it be maintained? That answer is dependent on the determination and willingness each person has to compromise, communicate, pick up the slack, and make it work. Even with all that, we are not guaranteed anything.
UpForItNow · 22-25, F
@LadyBronte Yes this puts it well, I've often thought that the primary motivation has to be to have a relationship and make it work, and not be a matter of the particular individual sought. The one accepted into the role is the one who can make it work, day to day,.just like in staff selection.
LadyBronte · 56-60, F
@UpForItNow Exactly. To add to it - It cannot be an uneven yoke. No matter how much one wants it and how hard and honestly that one works for it, if the other is a selfish, lazy, lying pig, there is no hope.
Only if both can accept their differences, respect boundaries, and not want to change the other.
Not for long. Initially maybe but sooner or late one will be held back from being themselves and one will feel forced to give more than they are confortable with.
popmol · 22-25, M
@anythingoes477 haha yeah because you only see me online, in real life if i'd live in your life i'd manage a week than probably need to stay in my room for a week to recharge
@popmol Yeah....but for that week youd have a ball. Lol
popmol · 22-25, M
Ontheroad · M
Sure they can, but as @LadyBronte said, can it be maintained. It's going to be difficult if both cannot compromise... that's the trick and all to often it turns out one can and the other can't... that leads to to problems which may in the end ruin the relationship.
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Why not? Good partnerships are often about complementary factors. Common ground is still required.

Introvert/extravert is also much more than whether you like or hate partying.
in10RjFox · M
In fact it would be a perfect match for one compliments the other and they are balanced as a couple.

Like unlike poles attract, its the like poles that repel.
Fluffybull · F
It's possible but it takes compromise. I'm an introvert and my hubby is an extrovert. Not a loud "life and soul of the party" type of extrovert, but he definitely needs people around more than I do and doesn't like being alone. He understands my need for "alone-time" even though he could quite happily spend 24 hours a day with me (EEEEK! 😱😱😱😱😆) so when we moved here I encouraged him to join things, do voluntary work, etc to meet people. He's initially a bit shy but when he gets to know people he's very sociable and everyone likes him.
Lanyx · 41-45, M
Sure, just inderstand what you are getting into.
huskyguy89 · 31-35, M
I think it works well sometimes. It works better if the person is understanding or themselves introverts. But I've found it can be helpful cuz your S.O. can deflect all the attention lol
PhilDeep · 51-55, M
I read in a very influential book once that most couples have one introvert, one extravert. Not sure if that's a good thing then, lol!
UpForItNow · 22-25, F
The best relationships have a flower and a gardener, and while two gardeners can make it work, two flowers is tough.
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I wouldn't be able to form one with an extrovert. I don't think so.
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@Darksideinthenight2 would make me feel uncomfortable and me to them
suzette · 46-50, F
Yes, a relationship can work out a lot better that way.
I had quite the extroverted friends when I was younger.
SarithBorn · 18-21, M
That's a good question, it does fall into the category of opposites attract. 🤔
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I would say only in the short term unless they're mature
Morrigan · F
Yes, i have been with my husband for 25 years.
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Sure! They can bring out the best in each other.
DiegoWolfe · 36-40
do revolving doors work?
Lilymoon · F
Yeah opposites attract and all that
popmol · 22-25, M
extroverts adopt introverts!
Japrost · 41-45, M
I doubt it.
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Yes, they can. Sometimes a person needs contrast in order to find a balanced relationship. For instance, the best fit for instability is stability.
DDonde · 31-35, M

 
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