Do you have a male That spanks you when you need it?? [I Get Spanked By My Boyfriend]

Its not abuse, abuse entitles a victim, a spanking can easily qualify as a disciplinary action or part of a lesson, perfectly healthy

@withintheheart opk

@bijouxbroussard,
I agree 100%. Take it from someone who knows. Both my parents spanked in anger. They were angry at what I did so let their frustration WITH me be taken out ON me (my behind).
My mom would make amends with hugs and kisses. My dad would cover up his guilt for loosing his temper with me by buying me off with gifts. I was never spanked out of shear love and concern; just anger and frustration.
We are from the same time period so we both have had bountiful experiences with spanking since it was all around us. Neighbors were like FAMILY so had permission to spank e/o's kids. Kids even included it in their play. Spanking in play was all in sweet innocence!

@Lex222
Gosh, Lex, are you OK with this treatment from your boyfriend? I can understand spanking as part of sexual role play, I enjoy it myself. However, outside of this circumstance, it is a demonstration of power over you and it has the overtones of being both sadistic and perverse. Some girls find this gratifying, I know. While personally, I cannot fathom it, there seems to be a deep emotional need being met by such domination. Nonetheless, you are not too old to create a change in your life towards more independence and self-esteem. I strongly urge anyone in this situation to consult a licensed counselor or psychologist to explore if this lifestyle is something that actually adds to your life... or imprisons.

Kind of ...😅
I have a boyfriend/Master who spanks me whenever we meet up - but unfortunately, as it's a long distance relationship, we don't get the chance to meet up very often - so it doesn't always happen when I need it!😕

I'm glad to hear that. I knew there was something better about the "angry" part than it sounded. Sometimes people read way too much into things which makes them judgmental of others and label them. I have fallen victim of this sort of attack on my person all the time. I try my hardest to not follow that pattern by not judging people by first impressions. Just because they are different, doesn't mean they are worthless!

I think some of you misunderstood. He does not beat me. He spanks me. He doesn't do it out of anger he does it when we both know I deserve it. He's very calm but serious when it comes to it.

Probably someone spanked by her boyfriend I would guess

When he spanks in anger, is he angry with you and takes it out ON you or is he just upset with you and wants you to learn a lesson "the hard way?" There is a HUGE difference. I hope the play spankings you get for enjoyment far outnumber the PUNISHMENT spankings you get from him.
Were either or both of you spanked growing up? That is usually the case when a bf spanks a gf. Does he spank over his knee and/or bare bottomed?

The day he will hit me will be the day his all tv set, computer, window, utensils, video game, mobile will be destroyed :D

Please.....not the paddle!

If this is being done with your consent and you are ok with how it is done you should be thankful ..... for both the playful and what it leads to and the discipline when it has been earned ....

Are you someone who learns how to act from a spanked bottom ???

i don't have a bf...so

Abused lol she said spanked

I never "need" to be abused.

Depends on the person, had girlfriend that liked to be spanked. I could spank her and she would get extremely horny and wet. Little different.I Liked it a lot, as long as I was the Dom.

If he's hitting her when he's mad, it's abuse, even if she's in denial. Naturally those who get off on beating women would not acknowledge any difference.

I like getting spanked also but there is definitely a difference between a spanking you want, even if it hurts, and being beaten. I agree with those below if I was beaten by some cowardly male, when he woke up he'd be more like Bruce Jenner....no junk left cause it would be cut off and shoved down his throat.

Grownups shouldn't need corporate punishment as a "lesson". If it's a sexual kink, okay, call it that---between consenting adults. But talking about "needing" it, like she's inferior and needs to be "taught" by a male---is misogyny and self-hate. Period.