Would you say something?

My dad is getting worse in hospice..just two days ago he was sitting up for a few minutes in the morning and talking normally. It was really awesome. He occasionally slurs and is very weak from aggressive cancer..
But today I can't even wake him, he's been in hospice one week today.
His roommate has his TV up loud on Westerns , so there's lots of gunshots. It's not obscenely loud but pretty loud and I'm so damn anxious of ever putting someone out or even asking a small request. 😟 I don't know whether to ask if he could turn it down a couple notches as my dad is nearing the end. I don't know if it's really affecting my dad though..he's in a deep sleep. Would you say anything or just let it go?

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IM5688 · 70-79, M

He may not actually be sleeping due to his illness. Usually, when it gets very close to the end for someone, they give the patient higher doses of pain meds. This usually knocks them out, (although not always completely.) Many times they can still hear what's going on even if they cannot respond.
I went through this with my daughter also. She would appear to be sleeping or knocked out but as soon as she heard a nurse walk in, she was alive with energy. I don't know if it was because she wanted to be alert for the nurse or because she was fearful that the nurse was going to do something that was going to cause her pain or discomfort.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@IM5688 Yes sometimes he appears sleeping deeply, and then heard us and says what? But today he wouldn't wake up at all for over an hour, even talking loudly to him. He finally did. I asked him if he could hear the TV when he was sleeping he said no. So hopefully it'll be ok the rest of the night.
Many warm thoughts for you about your daughter 🌺