Sometimes you have to let go... no matter how hard...
I love my friend but her PTSD is affecting my metal health and I feel so bad for distancing myself. 😞
46-50, F
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Graylight · 51-55, F
There's a rule for a passenger overboard. Succinctly, it's "Throw, row, tow, go." It's a means of keeping a rescuer from becoming another victim. First, keep distance and toss something. If that's doesn't work, close distance between victim and rescuer. Attach yourself to the end of something the victim can also attach himself to and lastly - lastly - swim out to meet the victim in the danger zone.
There are different levels of help. Care and concern are at one end of the spectrum, taking them by the hand through life would be another end. If your mental health is suffering, you can no longer be of assistance to your friend. Maybe it's a little compassion fatigue setting in and will it'll ebb and flow. Maybe you've recognized a hard line in the sand for you. Feel badly about the situation and for your friend, but don't feel badly that you can't keep pace on the road she's walking. Some stretches we need to manage solo until we grab the right help.
There are different levels of help. Care and concern are at one end of the spectrum, taking them by the hand through life would be another end. If your mental health is suffering, you can no longer be of assistance to your friend. Maybe it's a little compassion fatigue setting in and will it'll ebb and flow. Maybe you've recognized a hard line in the sand for you. Feel badly about the situation and for your friend, but don't feel badly that you can't keep pace on the road she's walking. Some stretches we need to manage solo until we grab the right help.