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As Bob Dylan wrote to his son "...may you always do for others, and let others do for you".
You have been a shoulder to cry on for others, and now it's time for your to find someone who will be there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on (maybe one of those who you have been there for would like to be there for you...but you might need to open up to them, or they might not realize that you could use a shoulder to cry on). ❤
You have been a shoulder to cry on for others, and now it's time for your to find someone who will be there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on (maybe one of those who you have been there for would like to be there for you...but you might need to open up to them, or they might not realize that you could use a shoulder to cry on). ❤
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@DragonFruit everything you said is very wise it is very hard for me to open up like that
DragonFruit · 70-79, M
@Justmeraeagain It is difficult to open up, especially when the one you felt able to open up to is no longer there. It's harder to find someone else to open up to than many realize.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@DragonFruit yep, you can spend a whole half hour consoling them and then when you admit that you are depressed, it's like "oh, I'm sorry you're depressed " and nothing more, as that ends the conversation right there.
It's not their fault; I get that they're not able to think in an empathetic way and are not being cruel, but it just makes it hard to find out who will take the time to talk to you.
It's not their fault; I get that they're not able to think in an empathetic way and are not being cruel, but it just makes it hard to find out who will take the time to talk to you.
bijouxbroussard · F
bijouxbroussard · F
@SleepingWithGhosts Thank you for saying so. Rae’s awesome, one of the kindest people ever. I’ve known her since EP (the forerunner to this site) possibly for about 10-15 years now ? 🤗
SleepingWithGhosts · 46-50, M
@bijouxbroussard Yes I was on EP too. I joined in 2013.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@bijouxbroussard I think it's been about 13 if I'm counting right
Livingwell · 61-69, M
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@Livingwell Appreciated
SleepingWithGhosts · 46-50, M
I am sorry things are so tough for you right now. Grief is very hard and takes a lot of time to overcome. Don't feel shame to be depressed or to ask for help. I'm actually going through this myself currently and a lot of times feel like I have no one to turn to either. But we have more looking out for us than you could ever imagine. If you need to talk or need a friend, I'm here for you. 🫂
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@SleepingWithGhosts Appreciated not really sure what I'm looking for besides empathy.
Zaphod42 · 51-55, M
I can relate, and I’m so sorry you’re in such a dark place. It’s miserable, I know. If it helps you at all, I get some (not much, but some) relief by talking it out with an AI like ChatGPT or Claude. It’s not great, but it does at least provide some small comfort. I hope you find some light at the end of the tunnel soon…and that the light doesn’t turn out to be an oncoming train 🤗
@Justmeraeagain I’m sure they do. Sometimes helping others helps… just saying.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@InterdimensionalSideEye
Honestly ,I have tried to be empathetic and help people most of my life.
Honestly ,I have tried to be empathetic and help people most of my life.
@Justmeraeagain me too. I get you
PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F
If writing your feelings helps, that's something. People read what we write here and hopefully, not only do we have some kind of outlet for all the rage, sadness and fear of doing life alone but we get to show others they are not alone in what they are feeling too. Please go to the doctors and get some help and if you want , you can message me, you know I can absolutely relate to what you've been through and still are Xx
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@PatientlyWaiting25 I actually hate therapy.
I've tried it several times it makes me feel a lot worse.
I don't have much of a problem writing things out, but I do have a lot of problem asking for help.
I've tried it several times it makes me feel a lot worse.
I don't have much of a problem writing things out, but I do have a lot of problem asking for help.
PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F
@Justmeraeagain I'm not sure why we do, probably because we feel like a burden or that we're judged somehow for not being as 'together' as we might Idk.
Subsumedpat · 41-45, M
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@Subsumedpat I honestly have no idea why
Subsumedpat · 41-45, M
@Justmeraeagain I must have messaged you in the past and it does not let you message again unless there is a reply. Hopefully what ever it was I said in the past was appropriate. Sorry to hear about the depression, most people don't know how bad that can be.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@Subsumedpat I'm sorry, I don't remember.
I don't really talk a lot ,but I thank you for your concern
I don't really talk a lot ,but I thank you for your concern
