Worrying about suicidal people online - ways to stop fearing the worst?

I have a thing when people online (real, or fake) say they are feeling suicidal or have attempted. What tips are there for us when someone online says this, to get closure or know if they are okay? Basically I want to know ways to find out an online stranger hasn’t died? Any tips or ideas?

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Perry1968 · M

This place holds no empathy tbf mate. For most of my life ive had suicidal ideations. Burned between my b.m and privates to relieve the pain in my mind. Burned tattoos out. Busted my hands countless times. Alsorts of horrible sh t. Been under psychiatrists. Had humpteen different anti psychotic meds. Ive finished a DBT course a while back. Im not like that as bad now. Suicide ideations still play a part but im too much of a coward and now i actually want to live. I hope you can help someone here or in life. You are clearly a kind natured person.

BurningBright · 31-35, M

@Perry1968 thank you. I hope it was a lie.

It happened on MySpace in 2009. I believe the person was lying as they were using photos of other people and I was messaged by multiple accounts in a pile-on attack. All the accounts had fake images of site-models.

In light of this, do you think I was lied to and no one attempted, or died? The fear has always stuck in my head that it was real - even if the people saying it had fake identities 😢

Perry1968 · M

@BurningBright Id guess the real way to test someone in need is a safe space like telegram app for example where you can talk but still stay anonymous as far as phone numbers and email addresses go. Id like to think no one woukd lie about something so aweful as its cruel to those who really do suffer.

BurningBright · 31-35, M

@Perry1968 it was 2009 on MySpace and the person saying it (and blaming me) was a fake account. I never got concrete details

Perry1968 · M

@BurningBright Ah right. I guess after all of this time you.ll never know.

BurningBright · 31-35, M

@Perry1968 it’s hard to do. If a fake account told you a suicide/attempt happened, and then you found out it was a fake account… would you think they were lying about it?? 😔