I wonder why is this still happening
Why do we hide the fact that we are depressed ? If it is an illness that affects every aspect of our lives why is it considered taboo to acknowledge it in public ?
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being · 36-40, F
When I was depressed I wouldn't want to talk to others about it because the moment I was meeting another was finally a moment I could breathe some fresh air. So it was me who didn't want to talk about it. I wouldn't want to have everyone reflecting back to me "oh poor her, she's feeling so terrible" , I was trying to go out...
But indeed I wanted to talk about it at moments.
So I'd say, any kind of illness is an intimate subject. As is a birth sign perhaps or a tattoo. You're not just sharing openly with whomever, you need to feel there's a frame or a certain level of intimacy or relatability... None definitely wants to speak about something close to them and risk not being heard. Or be bypassed..
But indeed I wanted to talk about it at moments.
So I'd say, any kind of illness is an intimate subject. As is a birth sign perhaps or a tattoo. You're not just sharing openly with whomever, you need to feel there's a frame or a certain level of intimacy or relatability... None definitely wants to speak about something close to them and risk not being heard. Or be bypassed..
@being I understand, however it is not the same if it deals with physical illnesses. Not being able to get out of bed or being unable to complete minimal tasks of daily life should be something to consider as serious as another disease, however the sufferers don´t disclose it for fear of being labeled and other people don´t know how to deal with the situation for lack of knowledge and information. It´s very troubling and frustrating.
being · 36-40, F
@Underconstruction it is... You're right we don't talk much openly about it.
If I were to be totally honest, I'd say it's contagious and that's something that sets it into a taboo state.
Like AIDS, Hepatitis, Herpes and other diseases, depression is contagious too.
Let's face it and let's be open.
Now, I have said that, I have friends with AIDS, Hepatitis, Herpes and Depression.
Am I immune ? I'm loving my friends.
But knowing for my own depressive tendencies, I know I cannot fully take in another with depression.
I know there is a time and after that I need to move, because I am in danger to fall back .
Is this relatable?
Sometimes the opposite can happen, and a person with depression can activate things within me and heal me furthermore...
But if we want to treat it as a disease, then we should stop insisting that is perfectly fine, because it's not. Everyone's life is hard enough to be expected to take loads in of other people's lives.
So when you are having low thoughts, why spend time with someone who is most probably going to get you more down ?
It takes strong and healthy individuals to communicate with depressed people. I was helped by people who were strong in themselves and I don't blame those who were in their weakness and couldn't handle more...
Because what makes a depressed person ? Too much load at some point I believe. And this same depressed person can place a similar load to another person who is nearing depression and drag them down too.
I had way too many depressed friends.
I've lost a friend to suicide and I'm still feeling guilty for not being there.
It's not easy for others either to handle the depressed so let's not pretend any more that it is. It's a big load, many times bigger than physical diseases..
If I were to be totally honest, I'd say it's contagious and that's something that sets it into a taboo state.
Like AIDS, Hepatitis, Herpes and other diseases, depression is contagious too.
Let's face it and let's be open.
Now, I have said that, I have friends with AIDS, Hepatitis, Herpes and Depression.
Am I immune ? I'm loving my friends.
But knowing for my own depressive tendencies, I know I cannot fully take in another with depression.
I know there is a time and after that I need to move, because I am in danger to fall back .
Is this relatable?
Sometimes the opposite can happen, and a person with depression can activate things within me and heal me furthermore...
But if we want to treat it as a disease, then we should stop insisting that is perfectly fine, because it's not. Everyone's life is hard enough to be expected to take loads in of other people's lives.
So when you are having low thoughts, why spend time with someone who is most probably going to get you more down ?
It takes strong and healthy individuals to communicate with depressed people. I was helped by people who were strong in themselves and I don't blame those who were in their weakness and couldn't handle more...
Because what makes a depressed person ? Too much load at some point I believe. And this same depressed person can place a similar load to another person who is nearing depression and drag them down too.
I had way too many depressed friends.
I've lost a friend to suicide and I'm still feeling guilty for not being there.
It's not easy for others either to handle the depressed so let's not pretend any more that it is. It's a big load, many times bigger than physical diseases..