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Do you think it's okay for someone to pick someone with severe social anxiety up and drag them to the dancefloor because you want them to dance?

When they told you repeatedly they don't want to? Or do you think I overreacted by yelling at tbe guy who did this?
itsok · 31-35, F
Ew, no. That’s super inappropriate. If someone says no, it means no.
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@itsok I agree. It was upsetting and I wanted to punch him in the face.
He deserved it❗️
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@Furiosa Oh, absolutely. I didn't because it was my parents's friends special day, and didn't want to cause a scene. But my younger sibling was almost crying and I had to stop myself.
Jill1990 · 31-35, F
I had bad anxiety getting up in front of people to speak. I had to take a class in public speaking and was panic stricken at first. By the end of the term, I was much improved tho. Maybe he was doing you a favor, but you should slug him anyway :)
Jill1990 · 31-35, F
@ArminArlert That’s so sad. Common sense needs to be used in more extreme cases. He needs lots of love.
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@Jill1990 I think people need to ne educated on severe social anxiety. It's not something people just "get over." It's not something they can "snap out of."
He does, and I hope I give enough to him.
Jill1990 · 31-35, F
@ArminArlert and exercise a little common sense and compassion.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
I don't think it is Ok at all. I think it shows a great deal of arrogance.
SW-User
it's not okay. sorry you had to yell, but they were asking for it
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@SW-User I agree. My cousin did this to my younger sibling. If he did it to me, I would have kicked his ass. But I stil wanted to...:/
SW-User
@ArminArlert good looking out for your younger sibling 🤗 maybe you got through to him, hopefully
SW-User
It was disrespectful, people often don't understand minimize it and see it as an exaggeration or as if you need their" help".
I don't see the problem with your reaction.

He probably thought it was ok to drag you because you were in a place where people are more social. Still disrespected you.
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@SW-User I agree. Some people really need to be educated about social anxiety.
Me probably did, and I doubt that he meant anything mean by it. But it was ignorant, and it made my younger sibling stay in his room the following day. It's hard enough for him to leave the house. We didn't need that.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
Not remotely okay. Severe social anxiety is a more serious condition, not just common shyness or uneasiness. It strengthens trust issues and encourages the one with social anxiety to seek solitude. It's like the confirmation they were right to be afraid of people and to not trust them.
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@CrazyMusicLover Exactly, and we've been working hard to help him trust people again. Now we're back at square one.
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ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@MalteseFalconPunch I agree. I just thought that it was possible that I was overreacting.
SW-User
Nah it's actually sad bc I have experienced it too except the crazy b pushed me into the pool lol
th3r0n · 41-45, M
@SW-User I hope you were at least wearing a bathing suit at the time
SW-User
@th3r0n such an sw Q 😂 ofc i was, my point is she thought she's helping me have fun when i was already dizzy and not feeling it that day
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BritishPerson · 41-45, M
That was done to me at a Christmas work social by a colleague who was a little bit drunk. I don't have anxiety but I am not comfortable with people doing that. No one should do that to someone who is not comfortable with it.
Piper · 61-69, F
No, on all counts.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
CelticRose · 36-40, F
Its not ok. You choose if you feel ready to get up at dance. The someone should have respected your choice.
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@CelticRose I agree. But it wasn't me. It was my younger sibling, and I felt like kicking the guy's ass.
CelticRose · 36-40, F
@ArminArlert He should have respected the choice though even more so :) I can see why you felt like kicking his arse though, I would have done the same had I been in your shoes.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I think it’s important to respect peoples boundaries. I also think yelling was probably the anxiety flaring
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@WhateverWorks The yelling was because I was pissed that someone would do that to my brother. He said no.
Tell them you have social anxiety instead of just saying no.
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@Vivaci It was my younger brother, and they know he does. He told a few people throughout the night that he doesn't dance, but they didn't listen.
Seems they know and you're doing what you want, walk awayy
It's not ok to do that.

You can yell at them, it's a normal reaction.
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
NOT an over-reaction. No means no, as they say.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
Yeah you tell 'em bruh ✊😤
Then tell 'em again
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
He should have respect your wishes
Tres13 · 51-55, M
Slow Waltz or Twerk?
1490wayb · 56-60, M
everyone needs a kick in butt
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@1490wayb The guy that did it?
1490wayb · 56-60, M
@ArminArlert i cant judge him, wasnt there...still we all need motivation to go beyond our comfort zone
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@1490wayb I can understand that.

I feel when a kid has said repeatedly that he doesn't want to, it's rude to literally force him. He's my brother, and I know that he has been struggling, so I'm probably biased.
It’s not okay to disrespect someone’s boundaries and push them into something when they’ve stated clearly they don’t wish to participate. And it’s not an overreaction to get upset when someone’s done that.
Chickie · F
No, people always try to get me to go to anxiety inducing places like clubs.
MethDozer · M
Totally fine. That's why I avoid such events.
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