I Am Unhappily Married and Depressed Over It

Hello everyone my name is Janet I am the proud mother of two beautiful daughters and the grandmother of six wonderful grandchildren. I work hard to pay my bills. I feel like I am a good person. I care about other people's happiness and I am unhappily married. I endure so much mental abuse that I cry myself to sleep. Right now my husband isn't speaking to me because I bought Pepsi and he wanted water for this he hasn't spoken to me for almost three days. I want to leave him but the guilt is stopping me. He is 26 years older then me and has no one. He hates children including our own and our own grandchildren. He hates animals and I believe he doesn't love me. I am sad and lonely.

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Roadsterrider · 56-60, M

I think some people are just mean and choose to remain that way. I understand where you are coming from, I have been miserable for the last 10 years. Not really crazy about divorce, not really crazy about FWBs but I have had them. I don't have sex with my wife by her choice, no reason other than she isn't interested in it. We don't talk, she never has anything to say unless it is something negative about work or the house or her car or that I was working when she needed help with something. I am expected to produce the paycheck and keep paying the bills for a roommate that doesn't act like she likes me at all, nothing is ever good enough. She can't financially make it on her own at this time, in a few years, everything we have financed will be free and clear and that is when I am leaving. She can keep the house and everything in it, I already have a home I inherited that is free and clear, I will start over again. I am 53, I figure I have at least another 20 or so years before they throw me in the box, I am not going to be miserable for the remainder of what I have left. Anyone 26 years older or not should realize they have a need for others in their life, nobody wants to put up with abuse. What do you have to feel guilty about? If he is pushing you away, let him push. I would say to have a discussion about it and let him know what he is doing and what the result is going to be, but he is making his own bed, he is going to have to lie in it.