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I Am Depressed

I am in a relationship with someone who constantly moan about being depressed, anxiety attacks and wanting to commit suicide.

I gathered from frequent stories I've read on this site, it's always the depressed one screaming out for help. Let me unequivocally share some experience and shed some light on what it's like being in a relationship with someone who is always negative and depressed.

I've tried being sympathetic, tried seeking professional help, tried the endless nights consoling him, tried the never ending guarding incase he commit suicide. Every conversation will always end up being about him. I have tried and tried and now reach the critical point of "IM F**KING TIRED."

I make excuses to remain in the office longer, any odd pretexts to be away from the cloud of darkness looming and surrounding what we once crave to be in. Our home has become an unwelcome and undesirable place. It was my comfort zone, my place of solace, my haven and castle. Everything has evaporated, the toxicity is lingering in the air poisoning the relationship, and I am beginning to despise and hate him. His voice and everything about him irritates me.

My friends has notice the cloud of gloom that follows me. When they try to take me out, he makes excuses he is sick or he would ring me over and over until I answer. When I do answer, he would instantly make me feel horrible so I don't enjoy myself.

Anyone in a relationship similar to what I have explained above, once you see these signs. Get out while you can.
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May I ask; what's the attraction to this relationship? What are you getting out of it, and why are you still there?
@PhoenixPhail
Physical attraction at first. He was a different person when we first met, after about a year into the relationship, he started to change. I stayed on because I thought I could help him. I grew to love him but the love started to wither away in time. I've realised that I can't help him, nor have the patience to continue.
@Random1Thoughts Have you been to counseling with him, or had the desire to go? It sounds like he needs the help? He could go alone.
@PhoenixPhail
We have gone to counselling together as a couple. He also attend counselling on his own. I wonder if our relationship is the contributing factor to his behaviour.
@Random1Thoughts It sounds as though he's resistant to change.
Also, it DOES seem you may be enabling him, maybe by showing caring and coming to his rescue. You may be green-lighting his way of being. Are you going to continue being with him?
@PhoenixPhail
No, I am fed up and have started to process of ending this relationship.
@Random1Thoughts Good for you! I would like to hear how it progresses. 👍
@PhoenixPhail will do.