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I Am Depressed

I am in a relationship with someone who constantly moan about being depressed, anxiety attacks and wanting to commit suicide.

I gathered from frequent stories I've read on this site, it's always the depressed one screaming out for help. Let me unequivocally share some experience and shed some light on what it's like being in a relationship with someone who is always negative and depressed.

I've tried being sympathetic, tried seeking professional help, tried the endless nights consoling him, tried the never ending guarding incase he commit suicide. Every conversation will always end up being about him. I have tried and tried and now reach the critical point of "IM F**KING TIRED."

I make excuses to remain in the office longer, any odd pretexts to be away from the cloud of darkness looming and surrounding what we once crave to be in. Our home has become an unwelcome and undesirable place. It was my comfort zone, my place of solace, my haven and castle. Everything has evaporated, the toxicity is lingering in the air poisoning the relationship, and I am beginning to despise and hate him. His voice and everything about him irritates me.

My friends has notice the cloud of gloom that follows me. When they try to take me out, he makes excuses he is sick or he would ring me over and over until I answer. When I do answer, he would instantly make me feel horrible so I don't enjoy myself.

Anyone in a relationship similar to what I have explained above, once you see these signs. Get out while you can.
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SerenitiesScars · 31-35, M
They don't sound depressed... They sound like an emotional person who enjoys drama...

I suffer from depression but it doesn't mean you speak like that all the time. Yeah negatives happen. But depressed people TRY to find a LIGHT... Even if they don't see it.. They talk about hopeful things and what could make their life better with all the what if's and if only's...

:/ And usually depressed people throw everything on themselves rather than on other people... Idk, sounds like you have a user on your hands and not someone who's actually depressed...
SW-User
@SerenitiesScars Great description, I would agree with this too.
@SerenitiesScars
He doesn't use drugs but my mother said exactly the same you've mentioned, he's emotional and enjoy drama.
SerenitiesScars · 31-35, M
@SW-User :/ It sounds like they're hiding their actual motives under a guise and don't actually suffer from any depression... Being addicted to drama and constantly being needy aren't symptoms of depression.. Depressed people don't care if others go out and have fun.. They just can't have fun themselves and will wallow in it alone instead of trying to call someone up to ruin their fun...

:/ Basically all the evidence this person already gave proves he doesn't have depression... He's just a drama whore.. :/ And wants to be babied.. That's all...
SerenitiesScars · 31-35, M
@Random1Thoughts :/ I'd listen to your mom on this... Since she's obviously right... :/ The problem is no one cares for someone when they outright admit they enjoy drama or are super clingy and needy... :/ So a lot of attention seekers have chosen to hide this under the guise of illnesses to get the attention from their supposed "Illness" instead.. :/ When in reality they do enjoy things.. It's just the drama and attention they enjoy... So acting out like they have depression or might "Kill themselves" is one of the greatest dramatic prose they can use...
@SerenitiesScars
Thank you so much for that great insight.
wakanda4eva · 26-30, F
@SerenitiesScars i wouldnt classify ALL people with depression like that. Different people experience depession differently, some may have tried to see the light but the darkness keeps lingering and overwhelming until it takes full control of its host. Toxic person to be with tho if you tried ur best and still nothing changes, best to cut ties before it infects you.
wakanda4eva · 26-30, F
@SerenitiesScars Tbh what you describe as someone that acts out constantly like pretending like they want to kill themself or emotionally drain others to create drama IS a mental illness, probably narcassism cos they constantly crave more attention maybe cos they grow up spoiled by their parents or was constantly neglected before