I Battle Depression On My Own

It's been a very hard couple days for me. My wife has really struggled in not doing what she used to be able to do and she cries a lot more these days. All I can do is hold her and try to comfort her. It gets harder every day for me to try and cheer her up when I am struggling to stay positive on my own. I have reached out to a few friends for help but they are too busy and don't have time. My family hasn't wanted to talk with me for years. I can't get support from my wife since she has a terminal disease and her family is struggling enough. I've always been there for everyone in my life through the years. I didn't think it was too much to ask to have someone to help me through this, but it seems it is too much to ask.

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rokrchik1211 · 26-30, F

Maybe you should check and see if there are any support groups that are for people in this situation

gmatthewb · 51-55, M

@rokrchik1211 I have. There are support groups for people with my wife's disease, not their care givers. Thank you for the suggestion though.

Sunshine59 · F

@gmatthewb I'm so sorry for what you are going through, maybe you should start a support group online for care givers and talk with others

gmatthewb · 51-55, M

@Sunshine59 I don't have the time for that. Plus I don't have the motivation. Thank you though.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@gmatthewb There must be something for you. I cannot believe there is not.

gmatthewb · 51-55, M

@PoetryNEmotion There might be, but I'm not the one with the terminal disease, so most of my focus is on what I can do for my wife. Also, she cannot do much on her own any more and the helpers that come every now and then are very limited as to what they can do. So I need to be here always for her.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@gmatthewb And who will be there for you when she is gone? You need support now in preparation for then. And for what you are going through. Your depression will not magically disappear.

gmatthewb · 51-55, M

@PoetryNEmotion When she passes, then I will deal with my issues, I will have time at that point. I just hope I won't have someone trying to tell me my issues stem from my wife passes.