Anyone else here dealing with dementia As a care giver?

I co/ take care of my ex-husband's father whom I still call dad. His dementia is progressing. And it is getting more difficult since his wife passed away and I cannot be there full-time. He Is a great man and did much for many when he was capable. Between work and everything else I have to take care of, I've lost Myself in all this. But I'm gaining perspective and Getting some self-care. I need to be good for me, So I can take care of everyone else. But if there is anything I can do to make life a little better for him until we can decide upon home care or facility care, I'd like to try to make him as comfortable as possible and have the best care. Thank you in advance for your feedback , experiences, kind words and help. Its greatly appreciated.💗

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SageWanderer · 70-79, M

Every case is different but from what I experienced from caring for my wife things that should have been done differently. First and foremost take care of yourself. It may feel selfish knowing what the patient is suffering but burn out is real!
Second, make sure you have a support system in place to assist with care. Don’t try to do it all yourself.
Third, read study and ask questions of other care providers. Learning what to expect and not be surprised.
And finally, don’t feel guilty. You will second guess yourself when it passes. Did I miss something or what should I have done differently are common.
My thoughts are with you as it is a difficult situation.