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How to make up with my daughters after periods of bipolar depression: [I Bipolar]

Is there more I can do to apologize to them?

My story:

I recently had a bipolar manic high that put me into the hospital for a month. This is my first incident since I was first diagnosed 20 yrs ago. Just the perfect storm of quarantine, lose of income, getting my car repossessed.

My daughters 15 & 12 and my son 10 were traumatized.

So as my kids were put in therapy with their mom (my ex wife) my daughters. put together over the years how sick I have been.

During the year I would have depressive episodes ( mania wasn't much of an issue) and my daughters said they were really angry for the times I was in bed most of the day and they had to take care of themselves.

I thought it was good enough when I told them "Dad's feeling low, I'm gonna sleep in today til afternoon" but it wasn't and I was wrong to treat them this way.

They are so angry and now they stopped living with me...after being at my place for 7 years for 3-4days week.

This is what I have been saying:

[b]"I'm sorry for lying to you when I was depressed and making you look after yourselves when you were just kids. I take responsibility for the pain this caused. Can you forgive me and trust me again?"[/b]

As kids they dont care I was mentally depressed, they just know they were hurt.

Help? its been 2 months now
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Kids are really smart and usually do well with truth and age appropriate information. I'd ask your kids if they are interested in your diagnosis and then educate them. Their fear, which is coming through as anger, could be in fact a fear of the unknown. Show them books, Ted talks, anything with information. Maybe books or a support group for the families of bipolar or mentally ill family members. NAMI is a great organization that specializes in families with a mentally ill member. Hang in there. Asking this question tells me you are a good dad who is trying his best.