Alyosha · 36-40, M
I had an ex who was borderline. One day she was just done with me. I watched her change over the time we were together. She had on-and-off bulimia and anorexia. I saw them come and go. She seemed to have a core that was her that persisted, though I doubt she felt that way. She was always kind. Never not kind. Didn't matter how frustrated she was, she was always kind.
OldBrit · 61-69, M
I was some years ago given a diagnosis of borderline pattern personality disorder.
At that time I was in a treatment centre for alcohol misuse. The doctor there thought my alcohol abuse, self harm and suicidal feelings were driven by that.
I'm personally not so sure. Since staying sober my mood doesn't swing like it used to and I've worked hard on my self worth.
Sorry to hear that you are struggling.
At that time I was in a treatment centre for alcohol misuse. The doctor there thought my alcohol abuse, self harm and suicidal feelings were driven by that.
I'm personally not so sure. Since staying sober my mood doesn't swing like it used to and I've worked hard on my self worth.
Sorry to hear that you are struggling.
OldBrit · 61-69, M
@Reeena for me did alcohol cause the personality problems or was alcohol a symptom of the personality problems?
I don't know. For me sobriety is my number one aim now. I still have fears of rejection, I don't have the suicidal thoughts anymore, the anger is less and better controlled on the whole. But I still have insecurities about who I am at times (my imposter syndrome is a constant noise) and the paranoia can raise it's head as a result of that.
I don't know. For me sobriety is my number one aim now. I still have fears of rejection, I don't have the suicidal thoughts anymore, the anger is less and better controlled on the whole. But I still have insecurities about who I am at times (my imposter syndrome is a constant noise) and the paranoia can raise it's head as a result of that.
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
My x had bpd. We dated for like 10 years. We still talk sort of.
BridgeOvertroubledWaters · 61-69, M
What us BPD ?
lovingdead · 36-40, M
What are you looking to learn and/or deal with about it?
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lovingdead · 36-40, M
@Reeena it can be difficult., what are your default ways of coping with things?
lovingdead · 36-40, M
@Reeena any constants in your life you enjoy?
GoFish ·
oh i thought it meant bipolar ..
SinlessOnslaught · M
Borderline PD? I've been diagnosed with that. I'm not sure what identity fragmentation is, but I'm interested in learning about it in case it could be insightful for myself. And maybe we could relate if it's something we both struggle with.
PhoenixPhail · M
Greyjedi · M
Do you mean bi polar disorder?
hartfire · 70-79
I'm not BPD, have done the tests just to be sure.
But I did once have crushingly low self esteem.
A lifetime of counselling, personal development practises,
and Vipassana meditation have all helped.
I now think we, as a society, over-rate and over-emphasise identity and individuality.
We just are.
We are aware, know we are aware, and can monitor our levels of alertness, direction of focus, senses, feeling, thoughts, beliefs, memories, fantasies, plans, motivations, ethics and so forth.
These can change over a lifetime as a result of our experiences.
Learn to face our own pain, whether physical or emotional, is important. It helps us distinguish what we need, work out an appropiraite way to get it fulfilled and nurture our longterm health and well-being.
We can construct a "self" we present to the world as a mask. "Personality" has its roots in the Latin persona meaning mask.
To be one's authentic self is incredibly simple. When others show interest, be open about one's past and present, one's whole reality as it is in this moment now. There is nothing to fear in revealing it because we ALL have flaws, fears and insecurities.
It helps to learn good boundaries, how to recognise when to be flexible or impervious, how to be vulnerable and accept loss.
It helps to remember that all feelings, pleasant or unpleasant, are as transient as seasons and weather.
But I did once have crushingly low self esteem.
A lifetime of counselling, personal development practises,
and Vipassana meditation have all helped.
I now think we, as a society, over-rate and over-emphasise identity and individuality.
We just are.
We are aware, know we are aware, and can monitor our levels of alertness, direction of focus, senses, feeling, thoughts, beliefs, memories, fantasies, plans, motivations, ethics and so forth.
These can change over a lifetime as a result of our experiences.
Learn to face our own pain, whether physical or emotional, is important. It helps us distinguish what we need, work out an appropiraite way to get it fulfilled and nurture our longterm health and well-being.
We can construct a "self" we present to the world as a mask. "Personality" has its roots in the Latin persona meaning mask.
To be one's authentic self is incredibly simple. When others show interest, be open about one's past and present, one's whole reality as it is in this moment now. There is nothing to fear in revealing it because we ALL have flaws, fears and insecurities.
It helps to learn good boundaries, how to recognise when to be flexible or impervious, how to be vulnerable and accept loss.
It helps to remember that all feelings, pleasant or unpleasant, are as transient as seasons and weather.