is there anything wrong with being nervous at times

i have a nervous disposition and are often nervous in public settings...and the reason i ask is because some people online seem to say negative things about nervousness, like your being weak, inferior or a beta male and that is not the case necessarily....i have a nervous disorder because i deal with ptsd related to violent trauma i suffered in the past, where i was violently attacked in public, due to me having public outbursts.....so i get nervous for totally legit- understandible reasons, nothing to do with inferiority, weakness or a beta male.

any thoughts?

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graphite · 61-69, M Best Comment

No, there's nothing wrong with it. I didn't get hired for a job once because the interviewer said I was nervous during the interview, when I didn't think I was. Turned out it was for the best that I didn't get hired. Nervousness is not fun but it deserves no criticism from anybody else.

darkmere1983 · 46-50, M

@graphite thanks for your understanding and relaying your experiences.

graphite · 61-69, M

@darkmere1983 Sure thing. As somebody else said in here, you might want to consult some kind of counselor to help you deal with your situation and make things better. I've done that. But nervousness is not some kind of personal weakness. Not at all.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Well, you need to find a way to confront your fear and move on. I know that is easier to say than do especially after a traumatic experience as you describe. But, random strangers will never give you the benefit of the doubt. The best thing to do is to just use each encounter you have as practise to improve and not try to justify your nervousness. Failure is an option as long as you keep moving on to the next encounter. That nervousness is understandable, but it's also holding you back.

Wiseacre · F

@MarkPaul good 1

cuteblondegreyguy · 56-60, M

Perhaps you could consult a licensed doctor/physician or psychologist/psychiatrist for feedback, advice, counsel.

StyleCat · M

Commander Worf says courage is the answer to fear.

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