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how do i deal with a next door neighbor that has really bad psych issues?

not sure what her problem is, i think she could have something like schizophrenia, my sister had it and she had a case manager seeing her all the time, my neighbor has one, i heard she had a bubble on her brain and ive heard her cough a lot like shes throwing up too, made me wonder if she had a brain tumor and was on chemo, i cant ask her cause i cant talk to her, she gets really mean, curses at me when she sees me , or does other weird stuff, yesterday i was just coming back to my apt, she opened her door and saw me and slammed it really hard, made me feel so bad that she was so mad cause i was in the hallway. i tried to tell my apt manager about it but he acts like the door got slammed cause of the wind, i know it wasnt cause i saw her when she saw me and the door slammed really hard, its unfair cause a couple of times someone on my floor slammed the door and she called the cops on me and one of my neighbors for it when we didnt even do it. so i had to talk to a police officer twice for something i didnt do, so why was it okay for her to do it but not any of us? she can get really mean, she dont even know where her daughters are cause they wont contact her cause of the way she is. i heard her kids got taken away from her, so she was probably abusive with them, shes right next door to me too, ive wanted to move but cant find a place, wish she would move, noone takes me seriously when i complain about it, anyways to get her out of here, heard she pulled a knife on someone in another bulding, how do i deal with someone like that when i cant find a place, its not the money, its all the waiting lists for places, ive wanted to move back to syr ny but i cant get a place there either, thought of renting a room from someone, i have income, just cant find something, any suggestions?
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She sounds like a sad, lonely woman who has no control over her sickness..

You see?? We all need to understand that mental illness is as serious as physical ones, if not more…

When we hear someone has cancer , we all try to help them but when we hear someone is schizophrenic, we call them strange, mean, and dangerous … that’s because we have no idea what they’re going through ….

My suggestion to you is that not to get on her way, don’t talk about her to others and try to be more considerate … that’s the least one can do to help …. she is lonely and she can feel the hate towards her… that can’t be fun when one is sick …

Much love to you .. 🌹🥰❤️
@Soossie Very well worded and compassionate, Soossie. I couldn't respond to this post, as my last partner died from Cancer, and her mother schizophrenic, and the use of mental illness as insult (even when I know the possibilities), made me more than angry. There were other ways to word this message, while I think of my ex dealing with police showing up when she was 3 as a child learning how to defend her mother.
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@Soossie Schizophrenia covers a spectrum of illnesses.
The two people I knew were both withdrawn, lonely people.
Their carers became drained.

Support groups are needed both for the person with the illness and for the carer. Their needs are very different.
They may not be available, and society may very well ostracise both of them.
The carer may finish up isolated with few friends.

Not easy, but all too common.
@thewindupbirdchronicles

[quote] and the use of mental illness as insult (even when I know the possibilities), made me more than angry. [/quote]

Did I make you angry by my comment??
@SW-User

I know… I very well agree ….. it’s even worse than a codependent taking care of an alcoholic …
@Soossie No, I've been meaning to follow this up with you, sorry. You didn't make me angry; the subject does, though. I loved how you made your thoughts known. I thought very compassionate of you. It's all complex when you look at the everyday, as everyone deserves peace of mind, but those who can find and not debilitated by a mental illness I hold my sympathy towards. And there is a prejudice in the world, that believes behaviour is from the mind, and not a physical manifestation of the mind, that holds less empathy towards mental health. I was trying to equate, my ex dealing with her mum with schizophrenia, her father having cancer, is of no lesser value and should come with equal understanding. I thought your words were very kind and compassionate, as a gentle reminder. My anger reflected that only, sorry.
@thewindupbirdchronicles

Thank you … and my apologies for misunderstanding …. I’m glad that you understood my point to my sister, Pearl … 🙏🤗