Everyone is a mental health professional until it means actually helping someone.

I hope there comes a day when people stop assuming they understand each other's issues and start listening, really listening, like stfu and listen.

Nobody needs you to fix them.

Nobody needs your unofficial diagnosis and presumptuous solutions.

Stfu and listen, or you're part of the problem.

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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

THIS.

I got a little upset last night when a friend was implying that I didn't succeed in school and work because I didn't try hard enough. My situation was almost unbelievably unique, and the odds were stacked against me. Even if I told the story it sounds too far fetched to take seriously.

The point is, people need to stop making slap judgments and realize that not everyone's situation is the same, and hard work is NOT always rewarded.

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

@DearAmbellina2113 I have a story that's kinda hard to believe too, and most people can't even fathom the strength it took to survive those circumstances. If they truly understood, they would tell you how awesome and amazing and brave you are to make it through and continue on with life with all that baggage trapped in your head.

Instead when they low key imply weakness and low self esteem as they problem, they simultaneously devalue you and insult you in a way similar to the abuse you experienced.

It's like you never get a chance to get it right ONLY because of what people think of you. You lose all credit for what you did do because someone who can't shut up and listen thinks they understand.

It's absurd. It's perpetuating the abusive narrative.

How the frick do people think we all got the same chances?

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@ScreamingFox spot on