Is this a normal feeling / thought to have? It's very painful.

It's been postulated that people who were raised with very critical parents or perhaps abusive or neglectful one, they tend to set very high standards for themselves because they don't feel good enough. And when you hold yourself constantly to high standards, you develop a knack for perfectionism. You want things to go smooth and easy all the time so that you can avoid the criticism or painful memories you're accustomed to from your childhood.

Getting upset by little things going wrong or feeling like we're not enough of something is a constant feeling that plagues us and reminds of how imperfect everything is.

It's important to remember that there's only so much you can control. You have to learn to accept that you are never going to be everything to everybody, that others are not beholden to your standards and that you are not beholden to others'. For me, I just focus on the people around me. As long as I can treat them with kindness and respect, I know that I'm doing all that can be reasonably expected of me. If that's not good enough for them, so be it. They're not entitled to my time.

Something i learned is we really can't compare struggles, what might seem minor to one can be monumental to another . Your feelings are valid in your experience. I tend to get disgusted when everyday stuff send me spiraling.

I don’t think it happens to everyone in exactly the same way, but I do think you’re describing something a lot more common than you probably realize. It makes you human and sensitive, which can be both a curse and a strength. You’ve got to catch it at the first domino if you want this to stop though. Say out loud, "This is small. I don’t have to go there." It sounds cheesy, but it works better than you’d think.

I know of several people who have the same 'domino effect' so you can take comfort, such as it offers, knowing you're not alone.

I was like that years ago but I did find my way through it.

It doesn’t happen to everyone, at least not all the time. It can happen to me if I’m already at the end of my rope.

No, not to everyone. People vary a lot in their resiliency, and part of the trick to staying healthy is learning to remain positive even when shit gets rough. But that's easier said than done and it may require professional help.

It happens