I Don't Think I'm ...

... All that attractive. It use to bother me for a long while but after working on my self esteem the last couple years I think I'm okay with that.

After my last relationship passed away I have realized I'm afraid to get too close to people where if they passed I would hurt deeply again. I don't know. Who knows what the future holds?

But I'll never stop being a supportive friend. <3

How do you handle grief and intimacy fear, SW?

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Monday40 · 51-55, F Best Comment

I feel like you are doing exactly what you need to do. I have experienced this and even though I don't talk about it. It's good to take your time , and don't be pressured to do anything you don't feel like. Take care🫂

LilPrincess · 41-45, F

Im not in the greatest place to offer any type of advice as I realized while being away from here... I typically lose everyone that walks in my life in one way or another

Samek · 36-40, M

@LilPrincess -hugs- sorry to hear that. :(

CookieCrumbs · F

Time is always our friend, whether it's about healing, trusting or loving.

Don't rush into anything.

Give what you can at a pace you're comfortable with. Accept what is genuinely given.

Allow people into your life in a manner you want to be in theirs. Friendship is a two-way thing. If you're not ready to trust, that's fine. But don't expect that others would open their hearts to you in the same way.

I have few close friends on SW. But these are people who I have invested time to get to know, in the same way I have allowed them to get to know me.

WillaKissing · 56-60

@CookieCrumbs Beautifully said. And I am the exact same as you are, and those that You and I do invest the time and energy with are truly blessed.

CookieCrumbs · F

@WillaKissing
Time is the best gift we can offer another. The more time we spend with them, the more of ourselves we share.

They'll always have a piece of me, no matter what happens -- even if they have to go away because of their real life's calling.

Primnproper · 56-60, F

I've had a few friends here that have passed and it is harder where you dont always find out straight away. It can be a shock..
It used to worry me alot but I've sort of grown to accept it for what it is..

Samek · 36-40, M

@Primnproper Thank you for sharing.

Primnproper · 56-60, F

@Samek welcome, sorry you've had it hard too..

Aysel · F

🫂

I'm sorry for the great suffering you've endured, and to be honest, I don't handle it well, so I'm not sure I can provide you with an adequate response. I'm a complete emotional mess.

Samek · 36-40, M

@Aysel Thank you for your honest candor.

Bexsy

You know my thoughts on getting close to people. So, i definitely not one to give advice. You should just go slowly. Let it just come and fall into place on it's own maybe? Maybe all anyone can do

Samek · 36-40, M

@Bexsy Thank you friend. I pushed away the last two people I connected with. Maybe fear, maybe just didn't feel right. I dunno. Good advice tho. If I date anyone, I'm going to take it slow.

squishylemon · 26-30, F

I guess the more u grow older the more u realise beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Samek · 36-40, M

@squishylemon So I need advice from that creature that lives in the depths of Baldur's Gate? He's kinda fishy and always asking people for change.

squishylemon · 26-30, F

@Samek nah haha, u dont need to look too far to find beauty in everything, namaste

Samek · 36-40, M

@squishylemon Namaste, kind soul.

Monday40 · 51-55, F

Thank you for BA.

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