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Stay with new therapist?

So I began seeing her back in January. I have been with her nearly 4 months. She is positive and kind and empathic...but doesn't SAY much to me about my issues. If I talk about having no self esteem from decades of horrible abuse, instead of asking further questions or brainstorming NEW ways I can view myself..she mainly agrees or nods. To most issues. I talk for 45 out of 50 minutes. She will offer typically one line towards the end that I find positive. But with the level of anxiety that has made my life stuck..I need more than one line really in 50 minutes. However I am so stuck I just grasp at that one thought and am grateful for it anyways. But to try to find ANOTHER therapist is daunting. To start my story AGAIN with someone new; It can feel exhausting sometimes. Would you just ask directly for tips or possibly find another fit?
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CountScrofula · 41-45, M
I think you need a therpaist who actually deals in useful techniques. Self-regulating therapy, CBT, and DBT for example. Look for someone who has expertise in these practices. My wife goes to a therapist who is extremely good at helping her gain control of her anxiety and it has taken years, but it is really working.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
I second this. I've been in your shoes, it IS exhausting and triggering to start your story over and establish a new relationship with a new therapist. I've done it a few times now.
I finally found a bit of success with addressing my past trauma with someone who specializes in ART [which I mistakenly thought 🎨 when I selected her, but it ended up being Accelerated Resolution Therapy]

ART is a bit more direct and faster than EDMR but it also uses eye movements. Sometimes I feel confused and skeptical if it's really actually doing anything or if I'm doing it correctly but I can look back and see personal growth.

I'm in your shoes a bit still now with the feeling like I've done a pretty good job of addressing my trauma and codependency but my provider isn't versed in neurovariance and I suspect I have ADHD and ASD which I've never really managed well so I think it might be time to move on to a new different kind of therapy.
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
@Starcrossed Right andjust the fact you're speaking in these terms means your therapist ahs been working with you and applying these methods rather than, say, just listening for an hour while you vent which is not real therapy.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Starcrossed so. What do eye movements do?
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@CountScrofula thanks for saying that me talking and them just basically listening is not real therapy
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
@Coralmist my understanding is that your brain processes thoughts differently when you do it.


Perhaps related, I remember learning a long time ago that people naturally look back and forth when on silent walks while in deep thought.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
We've also been trying brain spotting a couple times recently and that seemed to have some interesting results.