Stay with new therapist?

So I began seeing her back in January. I have been with her nearly 4 months. She is positive and kind and empathic...but doesn't SAY much to me about my issues. If I talk about having no self esteem from decades of horrible abuse, instead of asking further questions or brainstorming NEW ways I can view myself..she mainly agrees or nods. To most issues. I talk for 45 out of 50 minutes. She will offer typically one line towards the end that I find positive. But with the level of anxiety that has made my life stuck..I need more than one line really in 50 minutes. However I am so stuck I just grasp at that one thought and am grateful for it anyways. But to try to find ANOTHER therapist is daunting. To start my story AGAIN with someone new; It can feel exhausting sometimes. Would you just ask directly for tips or possibly find another fit?

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Lostpoet · M

I saw a therapist once and she explained to me that they want you to tell them these things and then go home and examine them for yourself because coming to terms with past traumas and accepting them and the emotions caused by them is the first step. Therapists are also conscious of moving things to fast which can cause a person to not want to talk about things and cancel their appointments.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Lostpoet That is true.. but I have gone through this trauma alone too long. I haven't found a way to heal myself. I think a lot just don't want to delve in further..they are getting paid a good amount to know ways of attacking thoughts or methods OF new thinking..she hasn't mentioned any. But I might give it a bit longer as she is a positive person and I need that.