Stay with new therapist?

So I began seeing her back in January. I have been with her nearly 4 months. She is positive and kind and empathic...but doesn't SAY much to me about my issues. If I talk about having no self esteem from decades of horrible abuse, instead of asking further questions or brainstorming NEW ways I can view myself..she mainly agrees or nods. To most issues. I talk for 45 out of 50 minutes. She will offer typically one line towards the end that I find positive. But with the level of anxiety that has made my life stuck..I need more than one line really in 50 minutes. However I am so stuck I just grasp at that one thought and am grateful for it anyways. But to try to find ANOTHER therapist is daunting. To start my story AGAIN with someone new; It can feel exhausting sometimes. Would you just ask directly for tips or possibly find another fit?

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twiigss · M

You could try this: Tell the therapist a small part of the larger story, and after you say that small part you say, "what are your thoughts about this?". Or after you tell the small part, maybe tell the therapist how it made you feel and then say, "but I want to know what you think?"

At least that way you're trying to engage with the therapist and have a back and forth rather than just you talking for 50 minutes. Maybe the therapist doesn't know when to interject and ask questions? It's just a thought but, that could be why she just nods and agrees. Information overload.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@twiigss Ty...I could try that🌺 I do leave pauses for her to ever challenge my fear or issue or maybe extend a bit but ..unfortunately she doesn't. I may try your idea asking her directly of her thoughts.