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Insecurities

What are your insecurities and how do you deal with it?
I have a hard time believing that people could like me. I work on it by remembering that I have a lot of qualities that I would appreciate in another person, I am kind to others, and that it's unrealistic to assume that I am actually completely unlikable. Everyone is liked by someone, even awful people. And if someone isn't sincere in the niceness they're showing me, that's on them. It not stupid to think someone might think I'm worth niceness or kindness. Not my fault some people are full of shit. Better to appreciate kindness and be wrong about people sometimes, than to always assume people are jerks and miss out on it all the time.
ihavenoone · 26-30, F
@AmbivalentFriability I think that's better than to overthink. But it is sad knowing people are not sincere. But we have different ways on how we cope. But remember not everyone will like us but it is not our fault. We are not living to please everybody. We just need to be ourselves wether they like it or not. I'm just good in advising you know but I'm suck with my self.
TinyViolins · 31-35, M
Most of my insecurities stem from my chronic loneliness. I've never really had people to hang out with or family functions or anything of the sort, so I always hate getting questions about my personal life because answering honestly will probably bum people out or lead to unsolicited pity.

I've grown pretty distant from my coworkers and I keep conversations fairly superficial with my neighbors, so I don't have to actually worry about broaching the topic, but I'm fairly confident they can tell anyway that my life lacks adventure.
ihavenoone · 26-30, F
@TinyViolins you know what i really feel you. I am actually people's like when I'm young but not sure who is sincere or not. But now i becoming old i now keep to myself and enjoy my own company. And become kind of introvert barely talk to people and just work keeping my distance with people. I don't know how i become like this because I'm so annoying and talkative before. But i realize it's better to keep distance than to be trying hard to win people like you or what. And be happy with your own company. I think I'm just getting old hehe. I want to talk to you about more this. Because i just want to be myself now. And show people i know not the same me as before. I kind of change don't know how.
TinyViolins · 31-35, M
@ihavenoone People become guarded. They get hurt or they exhaust themselves mentally or emotionally and they become afraid of letting themselves become vulnerable again. They have this very deep fear and mistrust of other people that keeps anyone from getting close enough to hurt them. They shut themselves away from any kind of love or connection.

I'm fairly content with my life the way it is. I have my dog and my hobbies, but I know that deep down I am wary of people and I don't like that my social interactions are dictated by misanthropy. I'm a person that can be supportive, and thoughtful, and caring, and dependable, but most people never get to see that because I don't let them.

That's the thing that bothers me, is that the best of me is kept away from people because I expect them to disappoint me. I would feel like I was wasting my time and energy
SW-User
[c=4C0073]my small bewbs, my nose, eyes.
So i wear a mask and padded underwired bras.[/c]
PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
Not standing out but I'm exercising.
VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M
I'm fat and disgusting, but I'm trying to lose weight so hopefully I'll feel better and re-energised.
VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M
@ihavenoone I've lost 7KGs in 7 weeks, my aim is another 30 at least and then I'll be much happier. I may even feel better health wise too. I'm hoping it'll take 10 years off how I look and then hopefully it'll give me some confidence to go out and find the one.
ihavenoone · 26-30, F
@VirginMatchmaker i support you. I hope you'll get your weight goal. Just keep doing what you're doing. I like to know you better because i have my own insecurities myself
VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M
@ihavenoone thanks. Support is good. I've just sent you a friend request.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
My current position in life, I'm not where I'd like to be and I don't even want to meet people who might ask me how I am and what do I do.
I'm trying to improve it and work on myself.
ihavenoone · 26-30, F
@CrazyMusicLover just keep it up. It's the same as me because the me now is still striving to keep the ends meet. I hope we can achieve what we want it life
MougyWolf · 36-40, M
I am always one paycheck away from losing my place to live... umm... I dunno.. I get high *shrugs*
ihavenoone · 26-30, F
@MougyWolf that's hard. I hope you find a better job that will help you
SW-User
I have major trust issues so it's hard for me to bond with others
TexChik · F
I talk about them with my hubby or my bff.

 
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