I think I might've upset a friend of mine

I bring him with me when I visit my mom sometimes. She was there for him in some of his hardest times so he's always happy to see her.

This is the same friend who's dating my ex & my mom already knows that because I've told her before. So when we were all together he mentioned something about her so I told my mom "oh you know he got her pregnant now too?" & she looked at him like "woah the same girl you warned him not to get pregnant back then?" She was just pointing out the irony 😂

It seemed like that was enough to bother him because he got kinda defensive 🤷 he was like "yeah because he couldn't hold on to her" & I told him "Why would I hold on to her? We didn't work out & neither of us wanted to be together. Why are you making it sound like she dumped me? 😂"

All he said was "nah you lost her" so I just laughed like "dude I didn't want her, that's not the same as losing her but alright then".

I feel like the little argument was petty in the first place but it kinda bugs me to think that he feels like he stole a girl from me that I couldn't keep.. that's not a very "friend-like" mentality.

Maybe he doesn't know that after we split up & she blatantly asked me for his phone number, I was the one who gave it to her 🤷 I thought it was weird hooking her up with my friend but that was my way of saying "screw it, I don't care"

It doesn't bother me still, but that was like 2 weeks ago & my homie hasn't talked to me since. I get the feeling that's what's bothering him 🤔 Sorry guys, just ranting ✌️

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SW-User

Maybe he felt like you were talking bad about her/disrespecting her and since he’s with her now he obviously got offended. But yeah I agree it was a petty argument, but maybe you should bring it up to him? That’s if you wanna be the one to reach out of course

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SW-User

@ChiefJustWalks lol I definitely agree but I’m saying you know why he’s upset then 😂, I personally couldn’t and wouldn’t date my friend’s ex that would be weird as hell

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@SW-User I couldn't either... the history just makes everything weird. I'm not mad about anything though I only hope they don't make shit weird themselves

SW-User

@ChiefJustWalks Yeah it’s probably a problem with them feeling weird with it themselves

YoMomma ·

It sounds like she wanted to be with him and you insulted her because you felt he was insulting you.. 😒 its kinda cold to ditch a dude for his friend.. but i guess at least she was honest about it?

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@YoMomma I never insulted her though 🤷 or him. & She didn't really ditch me for him either. We broke up & dated other people after. She didn't ask me for his number until 3 months later

Carlisle · F

The situation is super tense to be in

I’d keep my distance
There is nothing you both can say about the each other’s relationship which can’t be misinterpreted or misconstrued

It sucks but maybe keep your distance from them both

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Carlisle · F

@ChiefJustWalks
Me too it’s always nice to see you here.

I want to add (maybe I shouldn’t)
That she they both (no matter how cool they are with you and vice versa) shouldn’t have gone there.
It’s like a number rule of mine.
It’s girl code
Boy code
Decent humanity code
Just don’t date your boyfriends mates
Or don’t date your mates ex girlfriend
Like that is a massive no no for me personally
It has happened to me
I had a best friend and we were so close
I was with someone for a long time
And we weren’t working out so we broke up
He didn’t take it well and one day he said how can you be friends with her and not me
Then he blurted out that they had been sleeping together.

It didn’t hurt as much that he had done this because I had ended it anyway
But it hurt more that my best friend who I would have done anything for did that to me. Would come to my house after and have coffee with me.
I kept civil
But after that I put a whole big distance between me and her.
She’s reached out to me several times and iv been kind and civil
But she lost my trust and right to be in my inner circle.

I’m so glad you sister is ok. 🤗

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Carlisle yeah personally I would never date any of my homies exes. That was always a big NO to me. In the past my friends never would've done it to me either so this is a first for us. I chose to overlook it because she didn't mean anything to me but I know if it was an ex who really hurt me then I definitely would feel betrayed. I wouldn't even call him my friend anymore.

I'm sorry you went through that though. If I were you I wouldn't be friends with that person anymore either. That's one of the worst ways to stab somebody in the back, to sit down with them & play friends afterwards. It's just cold. I commend you for keeping it civil. I wouldn't have.

You deserve the world, js 😘

Carlisle · F

@ChiefJustWalks and you
🤗

bijouxbroussard · F

Sounds very much like defensiveness, maybe even some guilt, on his part

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@bijouxbroussard I questioned if guilt could be a part of it too. We've known each other since childhood & none of us have ever messed with each others exes before. I think that's why this one feels new even though I gave them my blessing.

Like maybe telling himself he doesn't need my blessing & that he took her from me is what makes him feel more secure about it?

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Oof. Hope he gets his head out of his butt soon. :(

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Starcrossed yeah me too 😒 seems like insecurity

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