Why does falling in love the second time never feels or doesn't feel as strong and powerful as your first love?
How did falling in love feel different the second time around? Was it more intense, less giddy, etc? Do you think it had to do with the difference in SO or because of a change within yourself? Let's be honest, was your second love as passionate as your first one? Been through a hard break up after a long relationship, the feeling of love I had with this man is the most amazing feeling ever and I dont think i'll be able to experience the same feeling again, because it was definitely true love. Is it possible to find the same feeling again with a different person? For those who were able to find it, how does it feel like? Do you still miss your first love? Why am I still in love with my first love? What was it like falling in love for the second time? I've only been in two relationships (not counting anything before high school graduation), and I've only been in love once. I (23f) was with my ex (22m) for about a year, and I can honestly say I was head over heels in love with him. I wouldn't say we were necessarily toxic, but we had a lot of things to work through and ultimately we weren't able to do it...so we broke up. But we didn't really break up, cause we stayed in near constant contact for an entire year after our breakup in January 2020, had several sleepovers a week, and even lived together for a short period of time.
During this time, he was a complete d*ck. He would lead me on and then tell me we were just friends and I should know that. He used me for money and sex. He slept with multiple other people. The list goes on. And I was extremely hurt by it, but I wanted him back so bad that I continued supporting him in every way and coming back every time he wanted me. Finally after a year of that I decided I had to cut my losses, and as painful as it was I cut him off.
About a month after that, I met my current boyfriend (24m). We've been together since February and he is absolutely wonderful in every way. I tell him about something that bothers me once and he fixes it, he is sweet and kind and I think I'm falling in love with him. The only thing is...he doesn't make me feel like my ex did. When I think of my ex it's almost like a movie montage in my head of memorable moments and feelings. We had fun. With my boyfriend, I can't think of any powerful memories I'll look back on. We hang out with his friends and go to bars and the gym, that's about it. All in all, he does treat me better than my ex and I am happy with him. It's just a little boring, but it feels very safe. I never felt that with my ex. It was tumultuous and scary, but exciting. This past weekend, I was out with some friends and saw my ex. We said a quick hello but that was it. Later that night after I got home, however, he texted me an extremely long paragraph about how he is in love with me, how bad it hurts to see me with someone else, how I'm all he wants in this world and that losing me was the biggest regret of his life, etc etc. I shut it down and sent screenshots to my boyfriend. But immediately that exciting feeling came back. I would never in a million years consider going back to him, but I do miss that exhilaration I felt with him. I guess I am asking if it's normal to feel a little bored the second time you fall in love, more guarded and safer, slower? Or am I just not in the right relationship for me and I should keep looking? I feel that there are so many mediocre and mundane things in life, that love should not be one of them. Will it grow over time? I'm not even sure where I'm going with this, I just feel confused and I don't know what to do. How does falling in love a second time differ from the first? Does love feel the same the second time?
I am wondering if love feels different the second time around. I was madly in love with my first wife. From the first month we started dating until she surprised me with a divorce. It was passionate in lots of ways. We dreamed together, we worked together, we did everything together. I loved her more than I thought possible. At least that is at least how I remember it now.
I have been divorced for three years and been dating an amazing woman for the last 13 months. She is wonderful, supportive, sexy, smart... Everything I have been searching for but my love for her feels different, and in some ways less. I am not sure how to quantify the differences but it just isn't the same.
I have changed a lot since my divorce. I was left jaded and have had a hard time connecting with women on a deeper level. I am sure some of the reasons the love feels different is because I am. Some of the reasons are also because she is so different than my ex. My question is does love feel different as you age and get new experiences. Does a companionship love feel like something less? Am I settling when I should keep looking? Falling in love for the second time
If this is anyone’s second or third break up, I keep hearing that falling in love the second time isn’t the same but still makes you happy. Can someone elaborate? I haven’t found anyone that makes me feel that way but I’m hoping I can still get attached and feel worry free at least sometimes the second time around? And also can anyone honestly say falling in love the second time was a lot better of an experience? What are people's experiences with falling in love for the SECOND time? Is it normal to feel so different from the first?
A few years ago I ended a 5 year relationship I had throughout high school and college. I was definitely in love with this individual, and I fell fast and hard. We began to say "I love you" around 3 months, and I know that him and I definitely meant it at that time.
A little over two years later I have met someone [24 M] and we have been dating for around 4 months. I care about this person a lot, and I feel as if I can fall in love with this person. However, the progression is much slower than the first time, and I am a lot more cautious and closed off. Is this normal? Should it feel so different and hesitant? What are other people's experiences with falling in love for the second time? How did your first love compare to your second love?
How did you cope if you (or both people) were still in love when the relationship ended? How much time passed before you felt "normal" again?
How much time passed between the end of one love/relationship and the beginning of the next, and were you surprised to be able to have these feelings again for another person? What’s it like to fall in love the second time around? How did falling in love change you? How did falling in love compare the second time around? I feel like I'm getting to that point where I might love the person I've been dating, but its nothing near the experience I felt with my first love (which ended pretty terribly after 7 years) and I keep doubting whether thats what I'm really feeling or not only because its not the same. The guy I've been seeing is completely different and wonderful. He's my best friend and I can't image my life without him in it at this point. It just seems more practical and easy, none of the crazy romantic butterflies and tension. Anyone have any advice/insight on what it was like after their first love?
During this time, he was a complete d*ck. He would lead me on and then tell me we were just friends and I should know that. He used me for money and sex. He slept with multiple other people. The list goes on. And I was extremely hurt by it, but I wanted him back so bad that I continued supporting him in every way and coming back every time he wanted me. Finally after a year of that I decided I had to cut my losses, and as painful as it was I cut him off.
About a month after that, I met my current boyfriend (24m). We've been together since February and he is absolutely wonderful in every way. I tell him about something that bothers me once and he fixes it, he is sweet and kind and I think I'm falling in love with him. The only thing is...he doesn't make me feel like my ex did. When I think of my ex it's almost like a movie montage in my head of memorable moments and feelings. We had fun. With my boyfriend, I can't think of any powerful memories I'll look back on. We hang out with his friends and go to bars and the gym, that's about it. All in all, he does treat me better than my ex and I am happy with him. It's just a little boring, but it feels very safe. I never felt that with my ex. It was tumultuous and scary, but exciting. This past weekend, I was out with some friends and saw my ex. We said a quick hello but that was it. Later that night after I got home, however, he texted me an extremely long paragraph about how he is in love with me, how bad it hurts to see me with someone else, how I'm all he wants in this world and that losing me was the biggest regret of his life, etc etc. I shut it down and sent screenshots to my boyfriend. But immediately that exciting feeling came back. I would never in a million years consider going back to him, but I do miss that exhilaration I felt with him. I guess I am asking if it's normal to feel a little bored the second time you fall in love, more guarded and safer, slower? Or am I just not in the right relationship for me and I should keep looking? I feel that there are so many mediocre and mundane things in life, that love should not be one of them. Will it grow over time? I'm not even sure where I'm going with this, I just feel confused and I don't know what to do. How does falling in love a second time differ from the first? Does love feel the same the second time?
I am wondering if love feels different the second time around. I was madly in love with my first wife. From the first month we started dating until she surprised me with a divorce. It was passionate in lots of ways. We dreamed together, we worked together, we did everything together. I loved her more than I thought possible. At least that is at least how I remember it now.
I have been divorced for three years and been dating an amazing woman for the last 13 months. She is wonderful, supportive, sexy, smart... Everything I have been searching for but my love for her feels different, and in some ways less. I am not sure how to quantify the differences but it just isn't the same.
I have changed a lot since my divorce. I was left jaded and have had a hard time connecting with women on a deeper level. I am sure some of the reasons the love feels different is because I am. Some of the reasons are also because she is so different than my ex. My question is does love feel different as you age and get new experiences. Does a companionship love feel like something less? Am I settling when I should keep looking? Falling in love for the second time
If this is anyone’s second or third break up, I keep hearing that falling in love the second time isn’t the same but still makes you happy. Can someone elaborate? I haven’t found anyone that makes me feel that way but I’m hoping I can still get attached and feel worry free at least sometimes the second time around? And also can anyone honestly say falling in love the second time was a lot better of an experience? What are people's experiences with falling in love for the SECOND time? Is it normal to feel so different from the first?
A few years ago I ended a 5 year relationship I had throughout high school and college. I was definitely in love with this individual, and I fell fast and hard. We began to say "I love you" around 3 months, and I know that him and I definitely meant it at that time.
A little over two years later I have met someone [24 M] and we have been dating for around 4 months. I care about this person a lot, and I feel as if I can fall in love with this person. However, the progression is much slower than the first time, and I am a lot more cautious and closed off. Is this normal? Should it feel so different and hesitant? What are other people's experiences with falling in love for the second time? How did your first love compare to your second love?
How did you cope if you (or both people) were still in love when the relationship ended? How much time passed before you felt "normal" again?
How much time passed between the end of one love/relationship and the beginning of the next, and were you surprised to be able to have these feelings again for another person? What’s it like to fall in love the second time around? How did falling in love change you? How did falling in love compare the second time around? I feel like I'm getting to that point where I might love the person I've been dating, but its nothing near the experience I felt with my first love (which ended pretty terribly after 7 years) and I keep doubting whether thats what I'm really feeling or not only because its not the same. The guy I've been seeing is completely different and wonderful. He's my best friend and I can't image my life without him in it at this point. It just seems more practical and easy, none of the crazy romantic butterflies and tension. Anyone have any advice/insight on what it was like after their first love?
