Punches · 46-50, F
I think for older men, romance and relationships just are not high priorities.
Lack of "drive", energy, and no desire to deal with someone else's baggage.
The ones that do want them are typically interested in women younger than themselves.
It is why older male celebrities are typically married to a woman young enough to be their daughter.
It seems usually that young men and older women are most interested in relationships and/or romance. Of course the world feels bad for women but just mocks younger men.
Lack of "drive", energy, and no desire to deal with someone else's baggage.
The ones that do want them are typically interested in women younger than themselves.
It is why older male celebrities are typically married to a woman young enough to be their daughter.
It seems usually that young men and older women are most interested in relationships and/or romance. Of course the world feels bad for women but just mocks younger men.
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@Punches The experience with younger men have shown me all they are interested in is the sexual aspect. I have talked to a lot of them over the years. None of them are into romance. They are mostly interested in what kind of sexual damage I can do to them for their pleasure.
It's a shame older men aren't interested in a fulfilling relationship that includes connection, care and love. That's disheartening to hear.
It's a shame older men aren't interested in a fulfilling relationship that includes connection, care and love. That's disheartening to hear.
Punches · 46-50, F
@FoxyQueen A lot of young men probably got sh*t on in the relationship scene when they were younger.
After a certain age when hormones dry up, there just isn't any motivation for men to put forth effort since they lose interest. It would be like trying to sell a deaf person a radio.
After a certain age when hormones dry up, there just isn't any motivation for men to put forth effort since they lose interest. It would be like trying to sell a deaf person a radio.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
I think men are real confused. I've heard several different responses when I tried to help. Some said they were independent women and didn't need a man's help. Women are just as capable. Others accused me of trying to control them. When my wife struggles using the computer and I try to help, she pulls it away and says she didn't ask for my help. She comes back 30min later for help and my debit card. Others wanted me to be available when they needed me but not before. And others wanted a sugar daddy but did not want to give anything in return. What ever happened to the concept of "partners" working together to be better than the sum of the parts? I guess those days are long gone.
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@Livingwell It all starts with communication. Every person is different on how they want to do things. Some want help right away. Some want to try first before getting help. One has to let the other know what their process is.
Like, I ask immediately if I need help. I will also state if I'm going to try to do something on my own first before asking for help, that way, they know they may want to stick around in case I do.
A lot of independent people are independent, not because they enjoy it, but because they are so used to being let down by others. That is my case. So I have learned to ask for help, not that I often get it.
It is confusing, but easier when you ask, "How would you like me to help you?" If they don't know how, and sometimes they don't, that's okay. Just let them know you will be there when they do need help. When you ask instead of just do, it really helps.
Like, I ask immediately if I need help. I will also state if I'm going to try to do something on my own first before asking for help, that way, they know they may want to stick around in case I do.
A lot of independent people are independent, not because they enjoy it, but because they are so used to being let down by others. That is my case. So I have learned to ask for help, not that I often get it.
It is confusing, but easier when you ask, "How would you like me to help you?" If they don't know how, and sometimes they don't, that's okay. Just let them know you will be there when they do need help. When you ask instead of just do, it really helps.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
@FoxyQueen I agree and I do that. But then they get all pissed off trying to get things to work and not ask for help. Some even tell you you are doing it wrong after struggling. At that point I walk away.
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@Livingwell Sometimes that's all you can do 🤷♀
I would disagree with you on that. I am self sufficient and believe in hard work for myself.
In my relationship I take care of all of the vehicles, and the RV. I do all the home maintenance, I do all the dishes, I do all of the cooking, most of the cleaning and I do most of the laundry.
What more would you have me do?
In my relationship I take care of all of the vehicles, and the RV. I do all the home maintenance, I do all the dishes, I do all of the cooking, most of the cleaning and I do most of the laundry.
What more would you have me do?
kimmy159 · F
Hmm well people want relationships for different reasons.
Usually the reason is not “hey I have all this time on my hands and I love helping other people” 😆
I don’t mean anything by it, it’s just something I’ve noticed.
That kind of care usually comes after you’ve established a good bond.
Usually the reason is not “hey I have all this time on my hands and I love helping other people” 😆
I don’t mean anything by it, it’s just something I’ve noticed.
That kind of care usually comes after you’ve established a good bond.
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@kimmy159 I don't expect that to happen immediately. That would be silly.
Often times, I don't reach that kind of comfort zone with someone for at least a year of talking daily about everything else but a relationship. Most don't want to wait that long for someone and I don't blame them. That is just how I work.
Often times, I don't reach that kind of comfort zone with someone for at least a year of talking daily about everything else but a relationship. Most don't want to wait that long for someone and I don't blame them. That is just how I work.
Sweetpoison · 41-45, F
JimboSaturn · 56-60, M
Barebum61 · 61-69, M
Wouldn't know I'm single
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
What are you trying to do?
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