I would literally give my soul...

for a man who cares enough to see that I struggle with my trying to do everything myself to make me stop and either take care of it, or help me.

I don't know that a man who is single in my age bracket is able to do that kind of thing. The majority of men I have met tell me, "Hard work is good for you!" and "It's great to be self sufficient!"

If that is the case, why do they think I want/need them? If you aren't taking stuff off my plate in care for me, why should I waste my time being there for you?

Men who genuinely care about their partner is about as rare as a diamond in a field of rocks.