I would literally give my soul...

for a man who cares enough to see that I struggle with my trying to do everything myself to make me stop and either take care of it, or help me.

I don't know that a man who is single in my age bracket is able to do that kind of thing. The majority of men I have met tell me, "Hard work is good for you!" and "It's great to be self sufficient!"

If that is the case, why do they think I want/need them? If you aren't taking stuff off my plate in care for me, why should I waste my time being there for you?

Men who genuinely care about their partner is about as rare as a diamond in a field of rocks.

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Punches · 46-50, F

I think for older men, romance and relationships just are not high priorities.
Lack of "drive", energy, and no desire to deal with someone else's baggage.
The ones that do want them are typically interested in women younger than themselves.
It is why older male celebrities are typically married to a woman young enough to be their daughter.

It seems usually that young men and older women are most interested in relationships and/or romance. Of course the world feels bad for women but just mocks younger men.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@Punches The experience with younger men have shown me all they are interested in is the sexual aspect. I have talked to a lot of them over the years. None of them are into romance. They are mostly interested in what kind of sexual damage I can do to them for their pleasure.

It's a shame older men aren't interested in a fulfilling relationship that includes connection, care and love. That's disheartening to hear.

Punches · 46-50, F

@FoxyQueen A lot of young men probably got sh*t on in the relationship scene when they were younger.

After a certain age when hormones dry up, there just isn't any motivation for men to put forth effort since they lose interest. It would be like trying to sell a deaf person a radio.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@Punches Again, it is sad that when the sexual need dries up, so does the desire for connection, especially when combined with past resentment turned misogyn. That requires some therapy