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Would you name your child after your first love?

I've always wondered how people separate memory from meaning. Some names stay with us long after the person is gone, not because we still love them, but because they once meant something important. So if you truly loved someone once, and the relationship is already part of the past, would giving that name to your child feeling sentimental, strange, or completely wrong?
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ninalanyon · 70-79, TVIP
Well, my first love was a woman with a very feminine name, my first child is now a man and I don't think he would have thanked me for giving him that name.

Reminds me of that old Johnny Cash song, A Boy Named Sue:
My daddy left home when I was three
And he didn't leave much to ma and me
Just this old guitar and an empty bottle of booze.
Now, I don't blame him cause he run and hid
But the meanest thing that he ever did
Was before he left, he went and named me "Sue".
No, my first love's name wasn't Sue.
GoFish ·
nah i plan on having a girl.. but i think my dad named me after his friend's niece 😒
HumanEarth · F
I did, because technically it was a character in a book from when I was little and learning how to read
HumanEarth · F
Pippi from the Pippi Longstocking books
@HumanEarth For twins, I’ve always been fond of Green Eggs and Ham.
HumanEarth · F
Well my mom always called my dad Mr. Pricklepants
NeddyKelly · M
No, as 75% of first loves fail in a relationship
I certainly couldn’t see the child’s father being too thrilled with that idea. I sure as heck wouldn’t be if the situation were reversed and he wanted to name our child after his first love.
mssweetdreams · 22-25
@OlderSometimesWiser Fair point 😭 honestly, I only got the idea from a movie scene, not from real life. But I wouldn't be surprised if there are actually people out there who've done it. I guess it depends on whether the name still feels tied to the person or if it just became a name they genuinely loved over time.
@mssweetdreams Either way it strikes me as a bad idea. Unless you didn’t mention to your partner the fact that it’s the name of your first love. Also a bad idea.
Blondily · F
No I would never name a child after a faded memory. Instead I named my daughter after my grandmother.
alan20 · M
It takes two to parent a child. If one is not agreeable, end of story!
mssweetdreams · 22-25
@alan20 True, but not every child is born from a relationship filled with love either. Sometimes a name ends up carrying more meaning than the relationship ever did.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
If I had a child, absolutely no. That would be weird and inappropriate. I would avoid any name I associate with a romantic partner, a crush, infatuation or anybody that truly shook my world in a passionate way. I'd pick a name that sounds good to me and I have some positive associations with it but more like: "I knew someone with this name and they left a good impression on me".
faery · F
No, I'd want my child to have their own name not connected to people they don't even know.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I think it'd be a slap in the face to my current partner

 
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