Do you get nervous about accepting love?

I get so uptight if a guy starts to show me affection , or if he touches me. I like it ...but I get scared. My mind has been on autopilot of 'bad' and unworthy, my whole life. (From severe abuse growing up). It makes me feel love or goodness could never be for me. And I wish I knew how to change it, because it REALLY sucks to feel this. 🙁

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

Maybe you should speak to someone professionally if you feel you cannot change things on your own. You have to believe that you deserve something better than this. Someone better who can bring some joy into your life. Everyone else is not the person who hurt you so you shouldn't block someone else's chance at loving you.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@AngelUnforgiven Thank you. It's ingrained, it was severe sadistic abuse ..that I barely deserve life, nevermind actual love. I've brought it up to therapist and they nod and offer near nothing. Im working on it though.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@Baybreeze perhaps you need to seek a different therapist

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Justmeraeagain I'm going to soon. She's kind, but does not offer tips or methods to challenge my anxiety. Ty Rae