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36 years old and never had a girlfriend???

I know someone that is 36 and has never had a girlfriend. What does that mean? They like women but can not get any why is this? Is it possible some people in this world are just unloveable.
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
Well I think if you're in this world you should find a way to live it to the fullest. Plenty of people die without ever getting a girlfriend. It's not a bad thing. Maybe in a biological way it is because you won't be able to pass down your genes but I believe humans are more complex than this because of our brains. The fact that you were born is a biological success in of itself so you should love yourself for that. You made it to this world! And I'm not sure about you or anyone else but I have no idea what comes after this life so I figure I might as well enjoy the ride through all the ups and downs while I'm here because I have no idea if I'll ever be able to experience it again. I'd argue there's no blueprint except for the one we create for ourselves.

As for love.......try love in it's simplest forms. Go out and make someone's day. I'm surprised how often I forget just how good it feels to share a meal with someone even if it's just a coworker or a sibling. Lend a hand to someone without expecting anything in return. Lending a hand doesn't necessarily mean pulling out your wallet and giving someone on the street corner money. Sometimes it's as simple as giving someone a friendly smile or chatting with someone at a bus stop. Take care of your mind and body and you'll feel a whole lot more loved from someone who means it the most.....YOU.

As for women, they're beautiful beings but they won't all find you lovable just as we don't find all of them lovable and that's okay. It doesn't make you a meaningless person unless you let that define you. Take me for example: I'm 25 years old and I've never had a girlfriend either. I'm actually quite pathetic and I rank pretty low on the social hierarchy. I've got 2 DUI's and I go to jail in 8 days. I lost my car, lost my phone, 95% of my money, moved back in with my forgiving mom, lost my job, lost my friends, etc. So yes I'm definitely not someone you should aspire to be but despite all this...I live on. Will I ever have a girlfriend? I don't know. If I do then cool, if not then that's cool too. I just know I really wanna play the piano to my hearts content. The sound of the piano makes staying on this roller coaster worth it despite all the bad things that are going on in my life.

You never know man, some lady might come to love you some day but for now I say find your "piano" and do it.

PS: I misinterpreted this question. I thought you were saying that YOU never had a girlfriend. Either way I think he should read what I had to say if he's feeling down.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
Not everyone has to have a partner.
TeirdalinFirefall · 31-35, M
Is it possible some people in this world are just unloveable
Absolutely yes.
nedkelly · 61-69, M
Maybe you are GAY, did you ever consider this



Edit. Ask your friend is he gay
@nedkelly they were asking for a friend
Does he want a girlfriend? Maybe he doesn't
SW-User
Some people are asexual and that's ok
Yes some of us are unloveable
It could simply mean that your friend just isn't interested in finding a partner at this time, or hasn't ran across the right person yet. No reason to automatically assume the worst.
familyfunguy · 56-60, M
My great uncle is a 91 year old virgin, and he's not the most miserable thing I've laid eyes on. Y̶o̶u̶ ̶h̶a̶v̶e̶ ̶He has time.
Tminus6453 · M
He has no idea how to act around females, obviously
Tminus6453 · M
@bushi2020 Ugly guys get girls all the time if they know how to
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@Tminus6453 HAHA what if he looks like a monster?
Tminus6453 · M
@bushi2020 Dude, face it, you have zero game
RedBaron · M
Maybe he's had a boyfriend or three, however.
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@RedBaron Not even that
RedBaron · M
@bushi2020 How do you know what he's done in his private life?
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@RedBaron I know him better then he knows himself
th3r0n · 41-45, M
People have terrible choices for a mate these days, may not even be anything wrong with them
Santi96 · 26-30
Too picky…my cousin is like this. No man is good enough for her. Lol
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@Santi96 I dont think thats the problem either
HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M
Well I'm no expert but... yeah i'm not gonna answer this question.
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
Maybe just work on your self a bit. Confidence goes a long way.
Find Only ONE litre of spring water and drown in it.
AstroZombie · 36-40, M
I know I'm unlovable.
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@AstroZombie Why do you say this?
AstroZombie · 36-40, M
@bushi2020 Because when I try to reach out and say hello to ANY single woman on a dating website one of the following three things happens:
1. I'm told that having multiple disabilities means I have no business looking for a relationship of any kind and deserve to be single for being born with the disabilities.

2. They ignore me and refuse to take the time to get to know me.

3. They block me. For saying "Hello" or "How are you" or GOD FORBID actually reading their profile and trying to use the conversation starters they ask you to use when contacting them.

I've been blocked by 95% of all active users on Plenty Of Fish who didn't abandon their accounts. And I'm not counting the spammers and online prostitutes who use the site. This proves that my last chance to have a long term relationship was my ex-fiancee (who admitted she'd lied to me about being in relationship the whole time were together and she was just using me until she could be with the guy she actually wanted to be with).

So I'm not saying it because I'm "being hard on myself" or "giving up too easily." I'm saying it because it is a 100% provable FACT.
reubles · 41-45, M
Gotta lower them standards
InHeaven · F
Wow. Good for him
“get any” ? He could buy that, if it’s all he wants. 🙁
bushi2020 · 36-40, M
@bijouxbroussard No woman is interested in him.
SkeetSkeet · 100+, F
Maybe he's attracted to shoes.

 
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