Guys, if a woman wanted friendship FIRST

I wanna hear more opinions on this topic.

I would argue that being friends first is a safer and better option to have enough chances to understand each other first before moving forward.

Slow is fine with me as I have been out of the dating game for years .

It's the sort of question I'm currently asking myself with someone I've stated talking to. They aren't ready for a relationship and say they just want to be friends atm but there's potential there as we talk every day. We talked on messages until way after midnight last night.
I think this lady is probably worth not bothering to look around at anyone else for.
But I guess there will come a point in the future if it hasn't happened where I say I have to look elsewhere or she needs to be more than a friend. Nothing can go on indefinitely.

I would definitely be down for that and I'd even commend her for being an effective communicator. Being upfront with that first and saying that they want to develop the friendship before developing the relationship brings some of the buzz that "hard to get" can sometimes bring. It also removes the cruelty of potential friendzoning after effort has already been made to make a significant impression.
More women need to be like this, 100%.

I prefer to start as friends and let the affection grow organically.

My girlfriend and I love each other very much but we are just friends. Romance doesn't last , that's why there is so much divorce. And i am twice her age, she's 36, I'm 72, so there's that too.

If they don't put out on the first date, I ain't sharing my Netflix info 😤

Slow is awesome. Im all for it Theres no rush at all and yes, id take her out lots. I always do.

The reason some men do not want to wait is because they do not want to waste time on something that may not go anywhere.

Some women say they are not ready or want to be friends first but then as soon as a guy comes along that they ARE interested in they jump right into the relationship (and the sack)

I have a friend who is going through this right now. He has given this women a boatload of hints that he is crushing on her, but there is a language barrier as well as a cultural one, so I have advised him to "slow down to her pace". The thing is, and also as I've told him, "you can't force someone to commit, they must choose to do that on their own and at their own pace. OTOH... no one can have 'too many friends' and without knowing what is going on with the thought processes in her head......you are just guessing as to what she really is thinking".

So.... My advice to people finding themselves in this situation is "Just be a good friend, because the best relationships develop from good friendships." And if it is not meant to be.... well you still have a good friend.

When both people are at the same stage of things it’s easier not to get ahead of yourself. But it’s my experience that when a guy is in the mode of wanting to date that’s what he’s focused on. So that can be quite difficult. As a guy having something you’re working for is better than not

I'm not sure. It feels like I would need an indication of what's going to happen. Waiting for three years and then hearing 'no', as some worst case scenario, is not something to look forward to. 😅

I would continue to see her. Sometimes you're ready and sometimes you're not. When someone wants something serious, they have to be ready for the possibility of slow and steady.

The non-Friend Zone thing is a tough sell. If I belived her and was realy interested in her then it's a definite maybe

If I'm the only one she's hanging out with and talking to, then yes.
If she's got a list of dudes for every day of the week, then no.

I always though that would be how I would go … then I met a gorgeous man that checked all my boxes and added a few I never dreamed I would get.

I even walked away from him the night we met after we spent the evening dancing and talking at a dance club with only a thank you. The next morning he sent me the largest vas of roses I had ever seen. The day after he took me to lunch . He swept me off my feet and my head was spinning and he’s been in my life everyday for the last 18 years. I guess you never know what you’ll do when “ the one” taps you on the shoulder. 🥰

Of course. I'd prefer that. I need to know who I'm dating after all. I'm not into spilling secrets to a stranger. lol

It all depends on personal situation as to how one physically and emotionally available as well as the chemistry between the two. Taking it slow is the right or ideal way to go. Rushing into a relationship if the intention is for a long term is not always right thing as the two are not able to assess the compatibility and needs and wants.

On the other hand today's society revolves around instant results, patience is no an option. You either click or don't.

So I say it us subjective.

I fall fast but I'd prefer to go slow as to not fuck it up, though that had the opposite effect last time.

Absolutely, have done so and I believe it leads to stronger bonds between a girl and a guy.

That would totally depend on the initial connection I felt. If I thought there was a spark, then yes.

Of course, I'd love to just be able to see her and be in her presence and talk to her, it would make my day.

I wouldn't mind it at all. I gotta connect with a woman before I can feel anything else..

Assuming I liked her to begin with, then I'd be fien with goign slow.

Anything is fine if she's really enjoyable company!

That's how I personally prefer to start a relationship.

Depends how long she strings you along. 🤔

I'd say no

Fine by me

Sure. I need more friends.

And to be honest, I would be nervous, too.

I am always worried that by committing to a relationship, I might have to change myself more than I like. I want to have friends yet still just be me.

Id be cool with that but not gonna lie I'd be fucking someone else on the side until this lady was ready to give some up

Yeah that’s fine but I’m going to sleep with other people until you make up your mind. 😉

it's meant to start as friendship first. How can you build a relationship on just sex by itself with no 'glue'?

yeah... but I'm not sure I would understand how to prevent the friendzone thing...

No

You have to be friends before you can be lovers, so I wouldn't be concerned about that. If it stays in that zone, I might opt out.

I'm not a guy. :)

I'd love to have a friend who was eventually more. Most guys want it all right away or they move on.
The right guy will stand out from the rest by understanding and hopefully enjoying growing a friendship that will last and grow into more.

I prefer starting as friends and getting to know each other.

Every single relationship I've had has stemmed from initially being friends with no intentions of and without seeking a relationship. One way or the other it just developed that way. It's just more natural to me. No pressure to perform, to have to be good enough, to impress, all that stuff. Just friends. If it turns into something more then that's cool, and if not, nothing will have changed and I still have a friend.

I do that all the time. And its how u find out if they are nice and respectable and not gonna sex u and go. And never go out and drink